Faith on the High Wire

Prayers for Bella Santorum and her family

2012-01-29T18:56:00.000-08:00

According to Rick Santorum's official campaign website, he and Karen have admitted their daughter, Bella, to Children's Hospital in Philadelphia. Bella has a genetic syndrome called Trisomy 18. This disorder, also known as Edward's Syndrome, is more common in girls and results in a variety of of physical and cognitive anomalies.

This may seem like an insurmountable setback for the Santorum campaign. But, Rick Santorum won't flinch, or even worry about making this decision to take a moment off from campaigning. This candidate, this father -- Rick Santorum -- has his priorities straight. He's exactly where he's supposed to be, at the head of his family.

Perhaps, as an unintended result, it may even win the hearts of more voters because it shows the extraordinary character of the man.

He's a family man, he's a fighter and he's conservative! It's a winning combination!

Please pray for the Santorums for strength and healing -- especially for Bella health.

Prayer for a Sick Child

St. Gerard, who, like the Savior, loved children so tenderly and by your prayers freed many from disease and even death, listen to us who are pleading for our sick child. We thank God for the great gift of ( name of child ) and ask him to restore this child to health if such be his holy will. This favor, we beg of you through your love for all children and mothers. Amen.

To communicate well, first be silent

2012-01-26T11:49:00.000-08:00

I have been lambasted over the last several weeks by people who oppose the teachings of the Catholic Faith.

I'm confused, honestly.

When people post their lewd pictures, comments or other items that I find morally offensive on social networking sites (on the rare occasion when I believe a comment is necessary or worth my energy), I always try to approach it with charity, keeping my comments concise and kind.

Why don't those opposed to my beliefs afford me the same level of respect?

Why is vitriol the first weapon drawn instead of intelligent and cogent debate?

Here's what I have had to contend with lately:

"Anyone who thinks that way is a right wing, conservative, religious whacko!"

"[T]he church also believes that people shouldnt use alt methods to get pregnant (hypocrital much?) so i guess with that rational my two daughters wouldnt be here. sorry but i will take the church seriously when they allow the prosecution of all the pedophiles they call priests. and as for the medical aspect there are millions of women myself included who benefit from using birth control. god gave us free will for a reason. not to mention not everyone shares the belief in God so who is the church to tell grown women what they can or cannot do with their bodies." [copied as written]

I couldn't make this up, and I'm not alone. Catholics are being persecuted for believing and witnessing to the Truth every minute of every day, and with more venom it seems, as of late.

Pope Benedict XVI, in his papal message for World Communications Day said this about communication:

When messages and information are plentiful, silence becomes essential if we are to distinguish what is important from what is insignificant or secondary. Deeper reflection helps us to discover the links between events that at first sight seem unconnected, to make evaluations, to analyze messages; this makes it possible to share thoughtful and relevant opinions, giving rise to an authentic body of shared knowledge. For this to happen, it is necessary to develop an appropriate environment, a kind of ‘eco-system’ that maintains a just equilibrium between silence, words, images and sounds.

In other words, it's not advisable to respond in haste. Time and reflection will help keep discourse civil and virtuous; "thoughtful and relevant", as the Holy Father, puts it.

Emotional responses can be our worst enemy, especially in a society focused on immediate gratification for the sake of pleasure or pride. Self control is significantly lacking. And, the idea of an interior life, a life that seeks out God in the silence of one's heart, is foreign to so many.

I am reminded of St. Peter's warning in his letter to Jews in the diaspora:

Finally, all of you, be of one mind, sympathetic, loving toward one another, compassionate, humble. Do not return evil for evil, or insult for insult; but, on the contrary, a blessing, because to this you were called, that you might inherit a blessing. For:
“Whoever would love life and see good days must keep the tongue from evil and the lips from speaking deceit, must turn from evil and do good, seek peace and follow after it. (1 Peter 3: 8-11)

We must keep the tongue from evil. Pope Benedict states clearly, silence is of great necessity to civil communication. Silence helps us to hear others, assess what they are saying, discern in our hearts what should or shouldn't be said in response, and ask for heavenly assistance in sharing our opinions and perspectives.

Perhaps we don't want to hear what other people have to say because we disagree with them. If no one shared contrary opinions, nothing would get done. No one would explore beyond their own shallow knowledge base, and mankind would stagnate. Conflicting opinions often spur the human mind to create, explore and seek out new information. It is good to share them, it is also good to listen to them. God can inspire us in many ways -- and we can learn a great deal, about God, the world, ourselves, if only we would take the time to be silent.

I am certain we would respond to each other with a more charitable tone, if only we assessed first in our hearts and minds what is to come forth from our lips.

Bishop Loverde speaks out against Health & Human Services mandate

2012-01-25T13:57:00.000-08:00

Excerpt from my article at examiner.com:

Calling this decision by the Obama Administration "ill considered policy" a "radical break" with liberty Bishop Loverde defends the tenets of the Catholic Church held since its inception at Pentecost. The teaching on the dignity and freedom of all human life has not changed in the Catholic Church in over 2000 years. To mandate that the Church follow a human law that contradicts over two millenia of consistency in living the teachings of Christ Jesus causes Bishop Loverde to insist that this is a "terrible lapse of judgment by our civil leadership here at home." (read more at link below)

Arlington bishop calls Health & Human Services mandate radical and dangerous

photo courtesy of cdu.edu

St. Blogustine: 2012 March For Life in Washington DC....St. Veronica Youth Group Pictured

2012-01-24T14:46:00.000-08:00

Photo taken by Matt Cassens

Yesterday, the St. Veronica Youth Group attended the March for Life Youth Rally with Cardinal Wuerl of the Archdiocese of Washington, Archbishop Vigano, the Papal Nuncio to the United States, Bishop Loverde of the Arlington Diocese, and a host of other priests and bishops from around the world.

It was an exciting and faith-filled time in defense life. After the Youth Rally, the group marched; a group photo was taken by Matt Cassens at St. Blogustine. Be sure to stop by and see the other amazing photos he took and read his impression of the March for Life this year.

St. Blogustine: 2012 March For Life in Washington DC....Cold and Wet, But Determined!

Click here to read my take on the March for Life.

Dolly Parton on Morality: Joyful Noise hits sour note

2012-01-24T05:35:00.000-08:00

Dolly Parton, the siren of country music and not the most modest blond bombshell of movies in the '80's, is speaking out about our lost culture. In an interview on FOX promoting her new movie, Joyful Noise, co-starring Queen Latifah, Parton offered, "We [the culture] just seem to have lost all our morals and principles and values these days." Her new movie, however, is antithetical to her statement. It's plot suggests that the only way to succeed is to throw off the lead weight of tradition and embrace what is new and vogue. That seems mighty "pro-culture", even if the setting for the film is a Southern Bible Church and its surrounding community.

Parton, who, to her credit, is married to the same man for 46 yrs. according to the interview, sends another confusing message in her statement about the culture. The dialog in the movie takes some pretty significant pot shots at Parton's one nip, one tuck too many character. In response to one of the rather off color jokes about plastic surgeries, Parton's character responds, "God didn't create plastic surgeons so they could starve!" Granted it's a line from a movie, but it speaks volumes about what science is capable of doing versus what they ought to do, and the rationale that being comfortable with who you are and how God created you isn't enough.

The Catechism of the Catholic Church teaches:

If morality requires respect for the life of the body, it does not make it an absolute value. It rejects a neo-pagan notion that tends to promote the cult of the body, to sacrifice everything for its sake, to idolize physical perfection and success at sports. By its selective preference of the strong over the weak, such a conception can lead to the perversion of human relationships. (CCC 2289)

As a voluntary candidate for multiple surgeries to enhance her looks, Parton embodies the idea that she isn't comfortable in her own God-given skin and is willing to sacrifice integrity of the body for the sake of her career. It's an issue of vanity that plays into the culture's fascination with the "cult of the body". In an interview with People Magazine discussing celebrity plastic surgeries, Parton even described herself as a "show dog". For to a culture that is already too consumed with "self", a message about values, morals and principles, from a high profile actress/recording artist who continues to present herself in a manner that contradicts some of those very values, morals and principles is at least suspect.

There's another troubling issue with Parton's new movie. It's rated PG 13. Why would a movie that wishes to improve and uplift [tongue in cheek] our culture with good news about God need a PG 13 rating? It's listed as containing "language and brief adult content". Is this how we bring people to God, to a new sense of values and principles? Or, does this portray just one more deficit in our culture -- relativism. Parton also seems to embody the principle that I can speak a good game but, I have trouble living up to the the standard.

Joyful Noise got sagging results at the box office. Perhaps it needed a little tweaking?

Hundreds of thousands marched, little to no counter protest

2012-01-23T18:29:00.000-08:00

We were about a 1/4 mile behind the big yellow Life balloon. Thousands of people in front of us, thousands of people behind.

The estimate for today's March for Life was over 200K+ participants. How exciting, considering that the Office of Personnel Management, in a move that baffled most people from the Washington, D.C. area, announced that the Federal Government would be closed until 11am today. The threat of ice was too hazardous to have people travel into the District of Columbia or surrounding areas to government agencies.

Odd, Fairfax County public schools were on time, and most other counties had only a two hour delay. The Federal Government will typically offer liberal leave on days that offer questionable wintry weather conditions, but to close until 11 am, on the day of the March for Life, well that was something that made a few people scratch their heads -- myself included.

With the marchers fired up and ready to go, there was an electricity in the air that seemed to exceed prior marches. The youth rally required people to be up and out of their homes and en route to the dangerously icy D.C. at 5am. Everyone arrived at the Verizon Center filling it and cheering for the cause of the unborn's right to life. My daughter was one of those who attended the rally.

The rest of us headed down to D.C. around 12pm with rain ponchos and boots, ready to march. We merged into the March, and off we headed to the pass by the Supreme Court and offer prayers for the scourge of abortion to end in our country.

Surprisingly, there were very few counter protestors. They must have heeded the weather warnings. When 200K+ people show up in your city to march peacefully and exercise their right to free speech, you expect something of a counter protest. I personally saw no one. Someone else that was with a different group said there were about 5 people that were standing on a corner shouting at marchers.

Or, maybe they just didn't feel the urge to rally a counter protest based on the President's less than impassioned commentary on the anniversary of Roe vs. Wade. Here's what he said:

As we mark the 39th anniversary of Roe v. Wade, we must remember that this Supreme Court decision not only protects a woman’s health and reproductive freedom, but also affirms a broader principle: that government should not intrude on private family matters. I remain committed to protecting a woman’s right to choose and this fundamental constitutional right. While this is a sensitive and often divisive issue—no matter what our views, we must stay united in our determination to prevent unintended pregnancies, support pregnant woman and mothers, reduce the need for abortion, encourage healthy relationships, and promote adoption. And as we remember this historic anniversary, we must also continue our efforts to ensure that our daughters have the same rights, freedoms, and opportunities as our sons to fulfill their dreams. (from barakobama.com)

A paragraph. Ho hum...I guess killing babies is just too common place. Not much thought went into a statement that makes this comment: "ensuring that our daughters have the same rights, freedoms, and opportunities as our sons to fulfill their dreams.

When's the last time an abortion was performed on a man? The same rights, huh? What on earth is he talking about? Babies shouldn't limit a woman's opportunity to excel in the work place? Really? Who will work if women don't have babies?

Well, 200K+ people showed up today to peacefully disagree with what's in that paragraph. This event can't simply be dismissed. The internet is bigger than ABC, CNN or any of the other media outlets that will try to down play the significance of the March for Life. And try as they might to derail it, you can't control the weather and you will never be able to. How lame to manipulating the weather reports and close down the government.

200K+ people still came, still marched and still voiced their disapproval of a law that allows for the innocent to be slaughtered often for matters of simple convenience. That fact cannot be denied.

And the voice of the opposition -- seemingly mute. A sign of hope for the future.


This was at the very end of the March for Life 2012 -- on the street in front of us thousands of people marched by!

Why I march

2012-01-22T17:03:00.000-08:00

photo courtesy of lifesitenews.com

I don't want to march.

For so many selfish reasons, I don't want to march.

It's going to be cold and rainy tomorrow.

It's hard to manage children in such a large crowd.

My body will ache when I'm done.

I don't have boots that fit me, or pants, or gloves that are warm enough.

But, like I said, these are selfish reasons. And, I have this gift of reason because I was given the gift of life.

My mother didn't choose me. I was a gift of the Sacrament of Marriage, and I was welcomed into a family.

I don't want to march, but I will march tomorrow with my children, my friends, my co-workers at CDU, my parish and with thousands of others who realize that what is conceived is a life, a human baby, who needs to be protected.

I will march because our laws are fundamentally flawed when they fail to recognize the first most essential detail of natural law: "According to St. Thomas, the natural law is "nothing else than the rational creature's participation in the eternal law" (I-II.94).

There is eternal law in which we participate. We are reminded by God what this means in the Ten Commandments -- lest we behave like our forefathers in Faith and forget what is written on our hearts that helps us to participate in a fully human way in the eternal law.

And knowing that my sacrifice of simple comfort tomorrow is necessary to help correct and bring into the light what is fundamentally flawed makes my marching the right thing to do.

Still, I don't want to march.

I don't want to march because I wish there was no need to march. I wish that the essential truth about life was recognized by all men. I wish that every life was loved and protected by those of us who have that very gift right now. And, I wish that the moral fiber of our country were stronger, more deeply rooted in personal dignity and human freedom. Life and its beginnings belong within the context of marriage. Because our society has accepted so many alternative ways of behaving that are incompatible with virtue and chastity, we have forgotten how to behave. We have forgotten what it means to be human, fully human.

I don't want to march tomorrow -- but, I will because my conscience compels me to. I will hope that my prayer is answered and I won't have a reason to march next year.

Our Lady of Guadalupe, Mother of Life, pray for us.

March For Life 2012

Debates a media circus: that's about right

2012-01-21T06:53:00.000-08:00

No one has more at stake in the political arena at the moment than the Republicans. With debates ad nauseum, and it being caucus/primary season, the media coverage is starting to resemble Nero's Circus. Who can we martyr next? And doesn't the media and its audience of liberals love it! This debate process is like their lion ready to feast on the next Christian!

Each candidate enters the ring with their own special vulnerability. Romney has his specter to overcome -- Romneycare and maybe a little too much Brylcreem; Gingrich has a moral noose around his neck with an ex-wife talking; Ron Paul -- well, they might as well get him a red clown nose and ahooga horn, that's what the media thinks of him; and Santorum -- he's a faithful family man in a culture that despises both faith and family, so why not take pot shots at his dead child and his child with disabilities?

Aren't you tired of it?

And free air time or not, I think the candidates ought to be pretty tired of it, as well.

I wonder if anyone will emerge victorious, at least anyone that Conservative Republicans can get behind without holding their noses. I have a feeling that the one who caters most to Nero, peeling his grapes and getting his teeth whitened to appear as the greatest physical specimen, will end up winning the nomination.

I wish we had a better forum to assess a candidate's commonsense and logic without the employing the process of immolation just for yucks. I wish it meant more than what the media puts before us to assess.

Can we all ignore the media hyperbole and get to the matter at hand?

Who out of these men can beat Obama without compromising his principles? That's all we need to know.

The standard shouldn't be to ogle over dozens of debates to see who can withstand the media's fangs at the public circus!

Sister For Life Multimedia Exhibit on March for Life Weekend

2012-01-15T07:00:00.000-08:00

The You & Me Exhibit

H/T Leticia Velasquez for posting the flyer on FB!

Fund Raiser for St. Joseph's House

2012-01-12T09:37:00.000-08:00

This article features a family that I have worked with over the 13 years I spent as Patient & Family Coordinator in medical education at the Uniformed Services University. Please read and consider sharing this article at examiner.com with others. The work of St. Joseph's House is critical to supporting children with special needs and their families.

Celebrating and Supporting the Special Mission of St. Joseph's House

Santorum: It's what you want

2012-01-10T14:20:00.000-08:00

"It's what you want!" A man in MaryAnn's Diner in New Hampshire tapped Rick Santorum on the should and made that statement. Santorum, and wife Karen, visited the diner as part of their primary push in New Hampshire yesterday.

Why would a customer in a diner say that to Santorum? Did he think Rick needed a menu recommendation?

No.

In the background of the video (it's 20 min. long), you can hear someone yelling for the cameras to get outside. Then someone comments that he's been hit in the back of the head with one of the cameras. It doesn't deter the crush of media types. Interference is their goal, not publicity. They were trying to make Santorum as uncomfortable and unable to meet and greet as possible.

What does a humble and generous Rick Santorum, Republican Presidential hopeful, do in response?

He apologized for the media frenzy that followed him INTO the diner. His comment: "I thought they'd wait until I got outside."

Respect.

Do you think that mattered to the media? They showed no respect to the Santorums, to the owners of the diner, to the people frequenting the establishment. They just didn't care.

And, this is the field of crazed spin-meisters that Santorum faces in his battle to win the nomination.

Pray, hope and don't worry, Rick -- God's got your back! You may not exactly want this type of interference, but free media time -- take it!

Women and the Tebow Football Phenomena

2012-01-09T06:34:00.000-08:00

Tim Tebow has certainly made an impression on people with his radical Christianity -- imagine, God has a prominent place in his life and he's not ashamed of it, even slightly! But, there's more to this Tebow story where women and football are concerned (nothing scandalous!) and Barbara Curtis @ Mommy Life wants to know what you think.

She posted this on Facebook last night:

So, I want to write an article about how Tebow is getting women interested in the football. Would love to hear your thoughts, opinions. Either leave as comment or email me - be as detailed as you want to be. When did you become aware of him? How has your relationship with football changed?

Do you have something you'd like to share with Barbara about how Tebow has had an impact on the way you view football?

You can email Barbara (here) or join her on Facebook -- she has a link on her site.

UPATE: Here's Barbara's article at Crosswalk.com (7:26pm)

Abortion over the Internet: Facebook epic FAIL

2012-01-07T06:22:00.000-08:00

photo courtesy of lifenews.com

Information, it's a wonderful and a frightening thing. You know the old adage, he's got enough information to be dangerous. Well, that's what the internet can sometimes offer, enough information to be dangerous.

Case in point, Dr. Rebecca Gomperts, an abortion provider who founded Women on Waves, a group that provides a floating abortion clinic to women in countries where abortion is illegal. Dr. Gomperts set up a Facebook account to promote her pro-abortion activity. But, she did more than that, she provided instructions for self-induced abortions that she claimed were safe up to 9 wks. gestation. (read the whole story at LifeSiteNews)

According to the story at LSN, Facebook removed the profile because it contained offensive material and violated their User Rights and Responsibilities clause. "Under their legal terms for protecting other people’s rights, Facebook demands that users will not 'post content or take any action on Facebook that infringes or violates someone else’s rights or otherwise violates the law.'” Gomperts and her group objected to this legal provision stating that it was a violation of "Article 19 of the Universal declaration of Human rights, the right to freedom of information as well as Article 10 of the European convention of human rights, the freedom of expression."

Gomperts' objective is to violate the laws of countries who deem abortion to be illegal. This goes well beyond the right to freedom of information stated in Article 19. Facebook was well within their rights to removed dangerous and potentially lethal medical procedures being shared on their site. Why they were intimidated to back down is baffling.

I might add, that pulling any one piece of any document out of context is also a dangerous thing. Gomperts decided that the removal of her picture which provided a link to information on self-induced abortion was against Article 19 -- but, in context, she violates several other Articles contained in the document by her dissemination of this dangerous information, (see Article 1, 2, 3, 25, 26, & 30, just to name a few), not to mention what in many circles would be considered a highly unethical practice of medicine.

Facebook has its reasons for acquiescing and allowing Dr. Gomperts' information to remain available -- they are not clear as to their exact reasons in their cookie cutter apology to Dr. Gomperts. Facebook had more than a leg to stand on in keeping her profile blocked based on the very same U.N. document cited by Gomperts in her complaint.

Who will Dr. Gomperts answer to when her over the internet abortion instructions cost some unsuspecting woman permanent damage or potentially the loss of her life? Will the U.N. step in to examine whether the rights of nations -- who believe abortion is homicide -- have been violated when Gomperts' ship sails in to collect women for illegal abortion procedures? Will Facebook feel differently about their decision to let Gomperts' questionable medical practices go unfettered on their site?

Freedom of information is one thing, allowing someone to use a site to provide dangerous medical "do it yourself" procedure information over the internet to kill babies in utero and potentially cause long-term harm to women is quite another. This just adds up to bad medicine -- Facebook: colossal, epic FAIL.

Life is its own quality: miracles and the wonderfully made human body

2012-01-01T19:08:00.000-08:00

So often stories about people who have suffered traumatic brain injury include the phrase "quality of life". Life is its own quality, and each of us enjoys it uniquely. Eddie, our 17 year old son, has a wonderful quality of life. He smiles constantly, enjoys his school bus ride, and reacts to the Consecration of the Eucharist during Mass with a zeal and comprehension that attests to it being truly the most exciting thing he has ever seen. Eddie has multiple disabilities, yet he is happier than a majority of the people I come into contact with on a daily basis, to include myself.

If quality of life is based on happiness, most of us fail the test for having a decent quality of life. However, happiness is not the litmus test for quality of life, ability is. That's troubling. Every human being is uniquely made in the image and likeness of God; each has his/her own ability to progress to that unique God-given potential. We will never all be the same, and no set standard can be placed on human potential.

A child like Eddie, a child with Down Syndrome, a typically developing child, all need help and support as they grow -- in utero and beyond. Human beings do not gestate, give birth and abandon their young to fend for themselves. No. They are raised and nurtured to be the most that they can be. Isn't it ironic that someone with no intellectual or physical disabilities can make a complete and utter mess of their lives, eg. drug addicts, prostitutes, criminals, etc. At what point would it be wise to question their quality of life? If those who have potential throw it away, is the quality of their life still deemed as good?

Quality of life -- it's a misnomer. Perhaps quality of convenience would be a better phrase. The reality is that quality of life only becomes a topic of discussion when we are considering whether personal comfort, leisure and pleasure are going to be hampered by the need to care for another life or live one that is limited in some fashion. Or, Lord help us, when our wallet can't handle the expense of such care.

Consider the circumstances of the family and physicians caring for Sam Schmid. Sam suffered critical injuries in a car accident several months ago, leaving him in a coma after critical brain surgery. There seemed to be very little hope. Sam's situation wasn't improving and both physicians and family were preparing to have to make the decision to end life support.

Schmid's doctor saw something on the scans that didn't quite make sense to him. ABC News reported: "For days Schmid didn't seem to be responding, but what puzzled his doctor was that he did not see fatal injuries on the MRI scan. So he decided to keep Schmid on life support longer." This decision to give Schmid time was only one part of the miracle that occurred.

Sam Schmid woke up! (watch video)

His mother had this to say about her son's recovery:

I tell everyone, if they want to call it a modern-day miracle, this is a miracle," said Regan, 59, and a Catholic. "I have friends who are atheists who have called me and said, 'I am going back to church.

This modern miracle sends a vivid reminder that not everything is known about the human brain, or the human body for that matter. They are not only fragile, but amazingly resilient. This is also evidenced by another truly amazing Christmas miracle, one that had doctors stunned. This time, it's the story of a mother and child, both dead after what should have been a routine childbirth on Christmas Eve. For no apparent reason, Tracy Hermanstorfer, went into cardiac arrest. Mike Hermanstorfer held the cold hand of his dead wife, and after an emergency C-section to try and save his son, Colston, held his lifeless child, as well. But, that was not to stay the case.

For reasons doctors can't explain, both mother and child began to breath again on their own within moments of each other.

Tracy and Colston woke up!

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There are such things as Divine miracles, and arrogant humans should take a giant step back from their limited knowledge base and reassess what they can and what they cannot control. Sam Schmid's family was poised to make the decision to donate his organs. Tracy and Colston Hermanstorfer were both pronounced dead. All of them are alive; all of them have a second chance because of a miracle in their wonderfully made human bodies that medicine cannot explain.

How many babies are misdiagnosed in the womb with medical anomalies and lost to abortion; how many are correctly diagnosed with anomalies and parents are told that it would be better to kill the child now rather than have them suffer later? But, humans beings were designed to love, to suffer, to live, to die -- naturally. When man interferes with the plan of God, that interference causes greater suffering.

What might the Schmid family have been thinking in that moment when Sam woke up? Perhaps, outside of immense joy -- dear Lord, we almost gave consent to donate his organs! What a horror to consider. And, how might other families who have agreed to donate organs be feeling at the news that Sam Schmid woke up -- did we do the right thing?

The heart and mind returns to Terri Schiavo, who was starved and dehydrated to death. While her body may not have been fully functional, she still owned her existence. Her life was not ready to end. It was taken from her -- a court ordered murder.

If medical care is to be civilized and human, it must recognize that there are situations where miracles occur, where God intervenes and changes the order of things as we know them to be. It can't be explained, but it can respond to. Each and every life is precious -- the notion of "quality of life" is a lie, and the human body is just as mysterious and marvelous as the God who created it.

Happy New Year from Faith on the High Wire

2012-01-01T03:00:00.000-08:00

Top Ten of 2011

2011-12-31T09:03:00.000-08:00

Remembering 2011

Top 10 of 2011:

10. Vacation to the Midwest! Quite a journey! Thanks for the planning, Lyle!

9. Grace learned to play the clarinet in 5 weeks!

Grace's fingers are visible behind the folder & music stand (Annie, our drummer, is in the background)

8. Annie is back to dancing again (no more tragic foot pain!) Lainie & Grace are dancing, too!

7. Success finding piano and voice teachers for Meg to replace our beloved former teachers

6. New job for Kath -- Catholic Distance University Co-Student Life Coordinator & Administrator, Associates of Arts Degree Program

5. Honey Do list is getting Honey Done

4. Christian solidified his internship for next semester with a prominent political figure in VA

3. Independent living quarters for 4 of the 6 kids was made possible. Eddie and Christian can't lord it over the girls any longer!

2. Homeschooling is going extremely well!

AND...the Number One highlight for 2011 is...

1. We all remain relatively healthy and happy and blessed with abundant grace!

Blessings to all who read this humble blog! May you all know the peace and love of Christ Jesus and welcome the exciting new year before you with conviction to know, love and serve!

Humble Advent -- Holy Christmas

2011-12-25T03:00:00.000-08:00

It's Christmas Eve -- the anticipation is peaked. There's an energy and an enthusiasm that electrifies the atmosphere. It's joy! He's almost here -- and with Him comes great festivities, first in the Mass and then in the home to celebrate the Christ Child's coming, to embrace His indwelling Spirit and the benevolent gift of God the Father.

I asked God for humility as part of my Advent journey. He's given me countless opportunities to grow in this difficult virtue. I knew what I was asking for, I begged that I could managed what was to come in the reception of such a grace. And, I tried as I could to endure, always in His loving grace. (This Advent request would have been unbearable without total reliance on His grace.)

The fruits of this request have been immeasurable, transformative for myself and for my family -- perhaps even for those around us. In watching the Hand of Divine Providence move in our lives, we get to thank Him, from Whom all good things come. And, the best way to say thank you is in reverent and submissive worship -- the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass! Worship will be personally vibrant on Christmas morning.

It is for this reason and with heartfelt joy and gratitude, that I am able to wish you the most beautiful, wondrous and grace-filled celebrations of Christmas. Not just a "merry" Christmas, but a holy and humble Christmas. May the peace of the Holy Family and the grace of the Child Jesus be formed in the mangers of your hearts and remain with you always growing in age, grace and wisdom.

"And Joseph too went up from Galilee from the town of Nazareth to Judea, to the city of David that is called Bethlehem, because he was of the house and family of David,to be enrolled with Mary, his betrothed, who was with child.b While they were there, the time came for her to have her child, and she gave birth to her firstborn son. She wrapped him in swaddling clothes and laid him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn. (Luke 2: 4-7)

Blessed Christmas to all!

Of Poe and Christmas

2011-12-21T15:18:00.000-08:00

A Dream Within A Dream

Take this kiss upon the brow!
And, in parting from you now,
Thus much let me avow-
You are not wrong, who deem
That my days have been a dream;
Yet if hope has flown away
In a night, or in a day,
In a vision, or in none,
Is it therefore the less gone?
All that we see or seem
Is but a dream within a dream.

I stand amid the roar
Of a surf-tormented shore,
And I hold within my hand
Grains of the golden sand-
How few! yet how they creep
Through my fingers to the deep,
While I weep- while I weep!
O God! can I not grasp
Them with a tighter clasp?
O God! can I not save
One from the pitiless wave?
Is all that we see or seem
But a dream within a dream?

Edgar Allan Poe

I don’t exactly know just how I came to read this poem today, but there it was in front of me on the screen. The words were compelling; I guess that would be how I'd describe much of Poe’s work, compelling. This poem, on this particular day, captivated my soul in an unexpected manner. As I began to read the words, I thought, "How very sad." But, as I continued to read, the feeling changed to that of wonder and hope. Now, doesn’t that seem strange? You just read the words above? Do they sound wonderful or hopeful? This is not exactly a hopeful poem on the surface. It comes across as rather dark and depressing -- it groans bitterly.

And, it was from out of that bitter groan I realized that Poe’s suggestion in the first stanza is folly. Life is much more than a dream within a dream. It is possible that man can deny a greater purpose and dash his own hopes among that very “surf-tormented shore” of Poe’s poem. But, in the end, it will not be a dream, an intangible, imaginary notion.

As the waves wash away the grains of sand that fall, to what does the subject in the poem cling? Nothing, if it is a dream within a dream – perhaps he’ll wake up. But to what, another dream? It’s irrational, and he knows it! He cries out, “Oh God!”

There must be more than what the senses can perceive. There must be more. Tormented or not, there must be more! The soul feels it, yearns for it, struggles after it -- the it that is invisible; the grace and help of God.

Human relationship is fleeting, human life is fleeting. In the end, the one thing that is constant, that the soul can cry out to, cling to, hope in, is God. And, even in this rather foreboding poem, beckoning beyond that sense of despair -- that sense that is a result of the fragility of the human condition -- is faith. “Faith is the realization of what is hoped for and evidence of things not seen.” (Heb 11:1) From the depths of the soul, as if straining to get past all the tangled impediments that beleaguer the flesh, hope reaches for eternity and begs an answer from the All Powerful Creator – is this but a dream within a dream? He questions, his hope is not truly dashed among the shore; God has inspired the question to bring this man out of despair and into a unity of faith and reason. He finds himself tending toward that inner voice that says, “There is more. Just ask.”

The tone of this poem turns from the anguish of a man who has left his love, and finds time to be his enemy, to that of hope in his heartfelt, desperate inquiry to God. Its implication is that this cannot be a reality of “nothingness”, not if it can beg that particular question. There is a point, there is a purpose. It is to be found in the journey of each man toward his final end, and the path he chooses. From the very core of misery, an ember still glows with the inspiration to seek first the kingdom of God. There is hope in the last line of Poe’s poem, of which all of us should take note. This hope is realized in the most surprising place -- this fresh, innocent and reasonable reality of faith is not dreamed, but rather, born of a Virgin and placed in a manger on Christmas morning.

Breathe deeply, part II -- the turbulence of spiritual apathy

2011-12-20T06:04:00.000-08:00

The other day, I wrote a piece called, Breathe deeply, after someone had mentioned that I should just stop, and learn to say NO. I am a solid 15 years into my faith reversion, and I marvel at how I continue to experience periods spiritual discouragement, how I so easily busy myself with other important things. You know what I'm talking about -- the things that make devotional prayers hard to say because the world encroaches, making it impossible to find the time; the same way life can just get overwhelming for all the wrong reasons. It's as if something has deprived me of spiritual oxygen, causing confusion and apathy when it comes to the necessity of persevering in prayer.

I'm not flying solo here, I know. It happens to all of us.

It's that time when the Lord lets go of the yoke (control column of an aircraft), requires us to take hold of it ourselves, and fly on our own a bit. (Remember, His yoke is easy, and his burden is light -- convenient for this analogy, don't you think?) Sometimes, I hit turbulence and have trouble controlling the aircraft -- neither the yoke, nor the burden is easy without His grace when I get overwhelmed, overloaded and discouraged. When my prayer life starts a downward spiral.

I'm such a foolish child of God not recognizing these moments for what they are. As I read St. Catherine's Dialog this morning she spoke these words to God and to me:

So, that soul, wishing to know and follow the truth more manfully, and lifting her desires first for herself—for she considered that a soul could not be of use, whether in doctrine, example, or prayer, to her neighbor, if she did not first profit herself, that is, if she did not acquire virtue in herself—addressed four requests to the Supreme and Eternal Father. The first was for herself; the second for the reformation of the Holy Church; the third a general prayer for the whole world, and in particular for the peace of Christians who rebel, with much lewdness and persecution, against the Holy Church; in the fourth and last, she besought the Divine Providence to provide for things in general, and in particular, for a certain case with which she was concerned.

The oxygen mask has been dropped from the ceiling of my spiritual flight. It's time for me to put on that mask of surrender and prayer again; to bring myself out of the turbulence of spiritual apathy and back into the correct flight path, to assist my family, friends and neighbors with their spiritual oxygen masks, as well. It's time to breathe deeply of that wonderful and necessary revitalizing Spirit -- to remember to stop, pray for my own holiness, and have constant, not occasional, conversations with God.

What an Advent this has been. Breathe! It's time to for this soul to take flight toward welcoming the Savior. Breathe deeply -- pray -- repeat.

School sanctioned incestuous behavior

2011-12-19T11:22:00.000-08:00

Parenting 101 -- Pieta, Michelangelo

The story about a High School prank gone seriously wrong -- of course, not in the eyes of the parents, spectators or the administration -- has been discussed by some significant bloggers, but this is just too disturbing and important not to share it here, as well.

What does it say about the current state of our culture when parents, teachers, students, administrators find nothing wrong with -- and even encourage -- a parent intimately kissing their child as part of a school function? That isn't just a prank, it's morally offensive and a deplorable lack of judgment. To see the video, and the way some of these parents engaged their children in this level of intimacy is shocking -- sickening! (I refuse to embed the video on my blog)

This is a serious offense of trust -- children, at all ages, should be able to rely on their parents to treat them with proper human dignity and respect. We all have a responsibility to behave in a way that is fully human, this is tending toward the higher Good for which our human nature was created. The scar of original sin and the determination of a culture to turn its collective back on God has brought about egregious manifestations of human action that can't be ignored. The darkness need no longer hide, it seems. And, that is a sorry situation for all of us to contend with, especially raising children in this culture.

Dr. Gerard Nadal does a wonderful job summarizing the facts of this story and their implications for our society. To read his assessment and view links of others who have written commentary, please visit:

Abortion, IVF, and School-Sponsored Incest at: Coming Home

Breathe deeply

2011-12-18T06:57:00.000-08:00

Breathe deeply in through the nose -- one, two, three.

Hold -- one, two, three.

Release, out through the mouth -- one, two, three.

Think about who you are, examine your actions inside and out. Do you do the things that God wants you to do within your vocation, first starting with a plan for spiritual development in your own life? Or, do you run around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to make everyone else's schedule work, while squeezing in the time for your own personal/spiritual development?

Breathe deeply in through the nose -- one, two, three.

Hold -- one, two, three.

Release, out through the mouth -- one, two, three.

Are your relationships strong? With God? With your spouse? With your children? With your neighbors? Or, do you run around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to make everyone else's schedule work, while squeezing in the time for your own personal/spiritual relationships?

Breathe deeply in through the nose -- one, two, three.

Hold -- one, two, three.

Release, out through the mouth -- one, two, three.

Are you at peace, doing all that you do joyfully for the greater glory of God and for love of your neighbor? Or, do you run around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to make everyone else's schedule work, while squeezing in the time for your own personal/spiritual works?

Breathe deeply in through the nose -- one, two, three.

Hold -- one, two, three.

Release, out through the mouth -- one, two, three.

Time to regroup -- time to refocus -- time to restore. Just in time for the Christmas. Ask for the grace to see things clearly, chose prudently, act justly, and worship reverently. And, breathe in deeply the Spirit of Joy!

A lesson taught, a lesson learned

2011-12-13T05:32:00.000-08:00

Sometimes we silly human beings make things so much more complicated than they need to be. We have rules; we have them for a reason. They help us to stay on the straight and narrow and assist our conscience in making right and just choices. Rules are liberating, but that is not what we are taught, at least on the secular level. So, teaching them from the proper perspective should be made clear and easy to understand.

Jump to RCIA class:

Thoughts inside my brain: The Catholic Church -- the institution most reviled for her moral rules. Try to teach those liberating rules to a group of people inquiring about the Faith in a way that will override the secular "free choice" theories that have been inundated with throughout their lives. Choose humor as a medium to convey a difficult teaching to take the edge off. Pray, breath, teach...

What came out of my mouth: Silly joke, misunderstanding and confusion! UGH!!! You know, sometimes its more virtuous and less complicated to be a straight shooter -- tell them the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, so help me God -- than it is to try and smooth it over somehow.

I'll be revamping that lesson for next year, believe me. It will be clear concise and to the point. Humor is one thing in it's proper place, it's a hazard when trying to teach a difficult teaching. For example, Jesus said, this is My Body; this is My Blood -- He didn't ease into it (this is not what I was teaching about). He just said it with charity and clarity! God bless me, I'll be keeping His example close at heart in my next session for RCIA.

Wreaths Across America

2011-12-10T16:25:00.000-08:00

12-10-11 -- Wreaths Across America

Today, my girls participated as part of their American Heritage Girls troop, the official girls affiliate to the Boy Scouts, in the wreath laying ceremony for Wreaths Across America. They went to the military cemetery at Quantico, Virginia.

It's a lovely ceremony and a beautiful way to remember with honor and love those who have sacrificed their lives for our freedom. There were representatives from each branch of the uniformed services, taps was played, and the wreaths were solemnly laid upon each of the graves of fallen soldiers and veterans.

My friend and AST Sorority sister, Tracy, is actively involved in this program. She and I happened to realize that her Dad and Uncle were buried in the same cemetery as my Dad and Uncle. For the past two years, Tracy has been personally laying the wreath on my Dad's grave. It means the world to me and to my family, especially my mother, who can no longer make the trip to Ft. Indiantown Gap cemetery on her own.

At this time of year when we anticipate the coming of Our Lord, this simple and beautiful memorial to our fallen soldiers and honored veterans is symbolic of our unity as Americans, one nation under God. It inspires patriotic hope in our great nation which was founded on Christian principles.

To participate with Wreaths Across America, to honor a member of your family or to place a wreath in honor of any soldier, seaman or airman buried at a military cemetery, follow this link.

Thank you, Daddy and all men and women who fight courageously, for your service to our country! We miss you!

Feast of the Immaculate Conception

2011-12-08T05:37:00.000-08:00

Today marks a Holy Day of Obligation in the Catholic Church, the Feast of the Immaculate Conception. Mary, most holy, was conceived in the womb of her mother Elizabeth, free of the stain of original sin. She was chosen by the Father to be the mother of His Son -- the Son being one in substance with the Father & the Spirit. Thus, Mary, is the Theotokos -- the Mother of God. What an amazing mystery in the Divine plan for our salvation, the dogma of the Immaculate Conception.

And, to think that God so loved the world that He gave His only Son, through this humble and simple virgin preserved and pure, through her own free choice to remain always within the will of God. He gave His only Son, Who in turn gave His only Mother to be our Blessed Mother. We are children of God, by adoption, and loved without reserved by both God and His Holy Mother, Mary.

If the world could only see the great gift we have been given in The Mother of God, if it could only surrender and embrace the tender heart of their Mother with abandon, we would know a sense of human kindness that is impossible of our own accord. The grace that flows from God through His Mother to all of us is there for the accepting, if we will only return the love that is given freely from God and from Our Blessed Mother.

To read more about the Feast of the Immaculate Conception and Catholic Doctrine related to it click here.

Blessed Feast of the Immaculate Conception! Mary, Mother of God, Mother of us all, pray for us.

Communication Bootcamp

2011-12-06T14:06:00.000-08:00

It's always nice to have someone appreciate what you do. That's how I felt when the women of the St. Theresa's Moms Group invited me to come back and speak to them again. I was really honored to give them a presentation that I called Communication Bootcamp. It was all about how to handle difficult conversations at the holidays with peace and joy.

I introduced an acronym -- one that many of you may be familiar with: ACTS. This is typically used as a tool to help you remember how to keep a good holy hour: Adoration, Contrition, Thanksgiving, Supplication. My version takes the same letters and applies them to effective communication strategies: Attention, Compassion, Trust, Sincerity & Support.

Here's a quick summary of what I shared. It won't be as comprehensive, but you'll get the idea.

A – Attention:

stop talking, listen and pray (bring the Holy Spirit into the conversation)

affirm what is being said – let them know what they are saying has value to you
redirect/refocus – often times issues go off on tangents and you are no longer engaged in a conversation/argument about the matter at hand -- get it back on track

facilitate – even if the argument/issue is with you, there is a way to keep the conversation going in the right direction: stick to the main points

C – Compassion:

let them know you understand and can feel for their position – even if in your heart you know that they are far afield.

find a place of common ground/every argument has a grain of truth—find it

agree where you can, and if you can’t on certain points remain silent – move on

forgiveness – don’t be condescending/simply say that this is a worthwhile conversation and there will be no hard feelings in the end. Better to share a grievance than let it eat away at you, right?

T – Trust

building a rapport with Attention and Compassion will help to develop trust within the conversation.

But we need to trust what we say, as well. – always surrender the words and deeds to God.

You invoked the Holy Spirit at the very start – now, really truly believe as you proceed that you are not alone. The angels and saints can be your guide

Blessed Mother will always protect you in defense of her Son

Operate in her example: simple, pure and faithful – no conversation requires more than that. You’re not giving a dissertation. Often people try to delve too deeply into conversations that just require simple, straight forward answers

S – Sincerity & Support

Always be truthful – if you are confronted with an in your face argument, ask for the courage to stick to your guns with honest and sincere answers offered in charity

Make your intention to be supportive in helping the other person to understand clear

Don’t let them confuse support for the person with support for the sin

These were basically jumping off points to talk about each of the strategies in greater depth. One thing that I didn't mention is that we started with the Beatitudes from Mt 5. That is how we are meant to live, to be fully human in our relations with others and with creation. If you look further in the Gospel of Matthew to Chapter 10, you'll notice that Jesus tells us how we are going to be divided in families and among groups that are very close (feel like family). We talked about how we should expect some differences of opinion -- some mild, some extreme. These techniques of communication will help navigate the murky waters of challenging family/close friend conversations. They can also be used as basic rules of fostering good/quality communication.

Have a blessed Advent everyone. As we prepare for the coming of the Christ Child, take a moment to brush up on your communication skills so that it can truly be a peace-filled Christmas!

Advent: Waiting in anticipation

2011-12-02T05:49:00.000-08:00

The spirituality of Advent is one the requires a surrender, a trustful one at that. We are humbly awaiting our Savior, the One who will free us from our sins. And that Savior, will come in the most unexpected way, born of a Virgin, in a stable in Bethlehem. A babe, a child, a king with no crown, no castle, no court, but the animals and the the heavenly angels, crowned with hay and prophesied to be the King of both heaven and earth.

The Jews waited -- a long and arduous Advent for them -- centuries and centuries as a people for the coming of the Messiah. The prophet makes that point clear in Isaiah 7:10. The coming of the Savior reaches back even to the beginning of creation in the story of Genesis and spans the books of the Bible (mentioned for the last time in http://www.usccb.org/bible/revelation/revelation12.htm), the history and Tradition of the Church to culminate in the season we now celebrate as Advent. Yes, they were rapt in eager anticipation of the their king, but just like us, often strayed from that hope. But, Mary, Joseph, John the Baptist - the main Advent players, so to speak, proclaimed, humbled, sacrificed, served. So, we have to prepare, stay convicted and patiently wait, perfecting our hearts, conforming our wills to the will of God, making small sacrifices to prepare a place in our soul for Him to rest His head.

Fr. Robert Barron has a wonderful short clip in his series on the Spirituality of Advent. I encourage you to watch and reflect upon his message.

 Blessed Advent!

Catholic crafter gives back by making unique altered art

2011-11-29T05:09:00.000-08:00

New at Examiner.com:

Catholic crafter gives back by making unique altered art

Thankful for many things...

2011-11-22T04:48:00.000-08:00

There are too many things that I am thankful for to write them all here. I will attempt to make a short list, but the two most obvious need to be here, not on the list, because they are foundational to the list. Without them, there would be a much different list. They are: my Catholic Faith & my family. These are the grounding forces in my life that allow all other gifts to be received, accepted gratefully and appreciated.

This year I am thankful for five things in particular:

5. All of the kids having a successful school year so far! (homeschooling is going well)

4. Christian secured an internship for next semester doing something he will enjoy and find fascinating.

3. My new job at Catholic Distance University and all the promise that it holds.

2. Lyle's commute to the new campus is not as heinous as it might be.

1. A health issue for me that seemed pretty awful was a mistaken diagnosis! Praise God.

May we all thank God for the many gifts and blessings He sends our way. May we recognize that He is the source of all these things, and that even what may not look like a blessing initially may well be one in the end.

What are you thankful for? Feel free to share here in the comments!

Happy and Blessed Thanksgiving!

Israeli youth with disabilities sue for wrongful life

2011-11-17T12:50:00.000-08:00

A rare double post from me:

This story is troubling, very troubling. A report at LifeSiteNews tells of Israeli children with disabilities who are suing because they weren't aborted! They are suing for "wrongful life"!

The article states:

While similar lawsuits in the United States and Canada are often brought by the parents of disabled children, it is common in Israel for the children themselves to demand compensation for the fact that they were not killed in-utero.

An increasing number of children, suing on their own behalf in Israel, are telling their country, their doctors and their parents, they'd rather be dead! That is a sick and pervasive result of the culture of death. These children suffer from a "genetic disorders caused by consanguineous (connected by kinship) marriages." This cultural reality "has fueled a 'pro-genetic testing culture'.” Instead of feeling loved, cared for, and given every opportunity to excel at their developmental/physical level, these children feel defeated and useless.

It's worse than that. Instead of changing the mentality of the culture, their parents have decided to continue the tradition to inter-marry and abort the genetic "problem". Those who chose to keep those babies are now faced with children who want monetary compensation for their parents' decision to give them life. And, they are testifying in their behalf!

Dr. Avraham Steinberg

“I find it very difficult to understand how parents can go on the witness stand and tell their children ‘it would have been better for you not to have been born,” offered Rabbi Avraham Steinberg, a medical ethicist at Hebrew University-Hadassah Medical School in Jerusalem. Who wouldn't find this difficult to understand? Parents are agreeing that their children would be better off dead. This from a people who during WWII were exterminated by the millions, now they want to perpetrate it upon themselves? It's mind boggling.

What do you think?

Just say "NO" to the cake

2011-11-17T06:45:00.000-08:00

According to LifeSiteNews, one woman in Iowa said a little more than, "No." When approached by a lesbian couple to make their "wedding" cake, Victoria Childress, owner of a home-based baking business declined their offer. Childress said, "I did not belittle them, I did not speak rudely to them. There were no condescending remarks made, nothing."

Does refusal to provide a service based on Christian convictions constitute bigotry? It's a question that plagues Christian's in every service industry in America. LifeSiteNews reports that "[businesses] declining to service homosexual couples, have routinely been targeted for lawsuits and harrassment [sic] in states that have legalized same-sex “marriage” or civil unions." Discrimination lawsuits are becoming their own form of harassment. Christians are finding it increasingly difficult to operate according to their consciences in matters of morality. Are all situations equivalent, requiring refusal of service based on conscience?

From wedding cakes to homosexual unions to contraceptives and abortion, Christians need to make decisions based on what they believe to morally permissible actions with which they can morally be associated. Christian moral consciences are informed by the Word of God; for Catholics, in particular, this is bolstered by Tradition and the teaching authority of the Magisterium. The questions a Catholic seeking to provide services in any industry must ask themselves are: Does this make me complicit with a moral evil? Is what I am participating in giving validity to what I truly believe and know to be morally unacceptable?

Childress said that her convictions strongly oppose homosexual unions, and that she was politely honest about that with the couple. Were Childress' convictions known prior to her encounter with the couple? Was there an ulterior motive behind the lesbian couple seeking out her particular services? LifeSiteNews suggests: "Often the complaints spread through media, particularly gay blogs, where gay rights supporters are encouraged to keep up pressure on the offenders." Was Childress targeted for her Christian beliefs? Possibly.

According to the business owner, her polite meeting with the couple has resulted in a "deluged [of] hate mail that she has stopped reading" after the couple went to the local news station, KCCI, and issued a statement calling Childress a "bigot". Since their public statement, other Iowa bakers have come forward to decry Childress for her open refusal to serve gay couples.

Could Childress have avoided this situation? Yes. She could have simply said that she was too busy to handle their business. That statement is subjective, as busy-ness is a state of mind relative to each individual's capacity to handle stress, work load, etc. The stress of this particular cake order may have created too much mental/spiritual strain on Childress' conscience.

Was she obliged by conscience to tell the couple of her convictions? Not necessarily. Making a cake would be considered mediate remote passive material cooperation; she is not responsible for the moral evil that will result from the couple's union. Is she now morally obligated to ask every couple that orders a wedding cake whether they are living in sin through cohabitation? Will she refuse those orders, too? How deep do her Christian convictions run? In issuing a refusal that caused public outrage, Childress actually garnered support for the lesbian couple and led other business owners in her area to publicly witness and assent to homosexual union.

It's a fine moral line to walk. Childress, to her credit, followed her moral conscience, a rare thing indeed these days. And, with an eye fixed to her eternal salvation, she refused to cooperate with something she believed to be morally illicit. However, a simple, "I'm not able to handle your order for that weekend" may have been enough, especially to avoid the perception of bigotry. Others might disagree, calling Childress a hero for Christian principles. In light of the blow back, did Childress accomplish anything more than creating division? Will her decision foster understanding or make Christians look insensitive and uncharitable? These are questions that must be considered as Christians operate according to their convictions.

How does one best accomplish the excision of a "moral" tumor -- with a sledge hammer, or a scalpel? It is imprudent to demoralize the prodigal son, but rather counsel and operate with love of the human person in light of their inherent dignity as a child of God. Childress claims that it was not so much about the couples homosexuality as it was about her personal walk with God that caused her to openly share her convictions with this couple and deny them her service; to which one might quote Blessed Teresa of Calcutta in response: "Words which do not give the light of Christ increase the darkness."

Nine minutes and counting...

2011-11-15T04:39:00.000-08:00

Silence is a wonderful thing. It starts the day off peacefully, serenely. But, after about an hour or so -- I've been up since 4:55am -- it becomes too silent for me.

I say my morning prayers, walk the dog among the crunching leaves on the dimly lit sidewalks, and let my mind contemplate things greater than myself. And, then I realize that what makes me greater than myself, this animating soul given me by my Creator, needs to take care of others. That lingering in silence "feeling" gives way to wanting the noise of little voices around me -- even the whiny ones, demanding ones, irritated ones. They are my opportunity to serve first within my own family. Those little voices are the future entrusted to me and to my husband. I want to hear them.

Nine minutes until their alarms ring and the day's organized chaos begins. This morning after much lingering in the love and peace of the Lord, I am eagerly anticipating their banter, their joyful noise to the Lord as they give one more day to His greater glory. God love them. It will be music to my rested soul.

Nothing gives me greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth. (3 Jn 1:4)

Science!

2011-11-09T18:07:00.000-08:00

Science! -- a favorite subject around here at St. Philomena Homeschool Academy.

They had such a good time learning about vertebrates and invertebrates.

What a great opportunity to learn together!

And, this is what makes homeschooling so sweet!

Vote Today -- Vote your conscience

2011-11-08T08:29:00.000-08:00

It's that time of year again. Haven't you grown tired of all the political endorsement phone calls interrupting your dinner, and life in general? We do have an obligation to vote our conscience. And, for Catholics, we don't have to try to figure out this mess on our own. The USCCB has provided a well organized and clear-cut document on the matter. If you are having trouble discerning how to cast your vote read:

Forming Consciences for Faithful Citizenship 2011

And, for Catholics in the 32nd District -- here's some help for you at examiner.com.

In memory of Aunt Eva & Lee -- God rest their souls

2011-11-04T09:37:00.000-07:00

My family has experienced the loss of two dear souls this year. These people have touched my life from my childhood and have formed memories in my mind that will endure as long as I do.

God rest the souls of:

Eva Greco -- born into eternal life 4/27/11 -- wife to my Uncle Tommy. I shared with my cousins (Eva & Tommy's children) how the memories of Sicilian Pizza on a Sunday evening listening to Aunt Eva fuss in the kitchen, and Uncle Tommy play his accordion would always be a treasured memory from my childhood.

Lee Genovese -- born into eternal life 11/3/11 -- father of my sister-in-law, Joanne, my brother Jim's wife, and GP (grandpa) to their three children. I remember way back in the 80's when Lee had started to work for Smith Barney (his second career) how he speculated about the stock market hitting 3000. Never, we all said. He'd have none of it -- smiling the whole time at us knowingly. What a conversation! -- in between innings of the Yankee game, of course. And, he was right...less than six months after that conversation it topped 3000. Lee was a dear man, always kind, and always happy to see you.

Please Lord, grant these, Your children, rest and peace. Our hope is that they enjoy the wonders of the Kingdom of Heaven with You!

Réquiem ætérnam dona eis Dómine; et lux perpétua lúceat eis. Requiéscant in pace. Amen.

Every time is the right time

2011-11-03T05:00:00.000-07:00

Doesn't everyone wish at some time in their life that they could have someone else carry their cross, or trade it out for another? It can be difficult, on a daily basis, to wake up to what seems a "chronic" situation. For some, that situation may be a specific challenge they face, for others, life in general.

I've been there.

I understand.

It can take everything you have to move forward and continue to do what you do day in and day out -- especially if its something that you know will be long term. It's tough to look on the bright side.

These situations -- the moments when hope and stamina run low -- are temporary. The only way they become persistent is when we yield to them. And, this is where faith must be the foundation. St. Teresa of Avila left us a beautiful prayer:

Let nothing disturb you;
Let nothing frighten you,
All things pass away.
God never changes.
Patience obtains all things.
He who has God,
finds he lacks nothing.
God alone suffices.

- St. Teresa of Avila

This prayer is a safe haven in the storm. A stanza of supreme trust and simplicity. There is nothing we can do but God's will. These things will change, but God never does.

So, pick up yourself and your personal cross and walk. The sun will rise on your circumstances. It always does because God has set the stars in the heaven. Don't despair, TRUST that the cross you have is given specifically to you to make you holy. And, pray for Divine assistance to carry your load -- My yoke is easy, and My burden is light. Jesus carried the burden of the world's sufferings upon His shoulders for our salvation, resist falling under the weight of just your cross. He will help you, He knows your suffering.

St. Paul renders this precisely and perfectly when he teaches the Colossians:

Now I rejoice in my sufferings for your sake, and in my flesh I am filling up what is lacking in the afflictions of Christ on behalf of his body, which is the church. (Col 1:24)

Paul shows us how we can use our sufferings, offer them for others, as he does here for the Church, the body of Christ. He is becoming Christ to them. You too can offer every day your afflictions for the sake of others. Give them purpose and meaning. Let those afflictions build you up for the good that they can do in assisting Christ in His mission for the salvation of souls. And, never forget that these afflictions, these sufferings you endure, are passing, only God is unchanging.

Quotes for meditation and reflection:

For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor present things, nor future things, nor powers,nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Rom 8:38-9)

To the servant of God ... every place is the right place, and every time is the right time. (from the Letters of St. Catherine of Siena)

All Souls Day -- Catholic teaching on Purgatory

2011-11-02T16:16:00.000-07:00

Purgatory isn't so hard to understand, right? Then why do so many people have trouble believing that it is real? Is it because they have never had it explained before? Perhaps. On this All Souls Day, I hope to provide you with a few tools to help better understand the Catholic teaching on Purgatory.

This is what I tell the kids: You did something wrong. I forgive you. You still have to pay a consequence for what you did. That doesn't change my love for you, but it makes you realize that what you did was wrong and something must be done to make up for the offense. It perfects you. I don't like to see you have to endure the consequence, but I love you enough to want you to be the best that you can be.

If this parenting technique, employed to help children understand that choices have consequences, is reasonable, why would we expect any less from Our Heavenly Father in dealing with us? Heaven is where we are meant to be with the Trinity eternally enjoying the Beatific Vision. But, Scripture, Doctrine and Tradition are in harmony on this point: One must be perfected to enter heaven.

I found a website, Scripture Catholic, that lays it all out clearly (I won't try to duplicate it here -- they do an excellent and thorough job on the site). It draws from Scripture, Tradition and the Fathers of the Church. It is really worth a look, especially if you know people who don't believe in this sojourn of perfection after death. But, I'd like to add one more dimension -- the Catechism of the Catholic Church.

The Catechism says this about purgatory:

III. THE FINAL PURIFICATION, OR PURGATORY

1030 All who die in God's grace and friendship, but still imperfectly purified, are indeed assured of their eternal salvation; but after death they undergo purification, so as to achieve the holiness necessary to enter the joy of heaven.

1031 The Church gives the name Purgatory to this final purification of the elect, which is entirely different from the punishment of the damned. The Church formulated her doctrine of faith on Purgatory especially at the Councils of Florence and Trent. The tradition of the Church, by reference to certain texts of Scripture, speaks of a cleansing fire:
As for certain lesser faults, we must believe that, before the Final Judgment, there is a purifying fire. He who is truth says that whoever utters blasphemy against the Holy Spirit will be pardoned neither in this age nor in the age to come. From this sentence we understand that certain offenses can be forgiven in this age, but certain others in the age to come.
1032 This teaching is also based on the practice of prayer for the dead, already mentioned in Sacred Scripture: "Therefore [Judas Maccabeus] made atonement for the dead, that they might be delivered from their sin." From the beginning the Church has honored the memory of the dead and offered prayers in suffrage for them, above all the Eucharistic sacrifice, so that, thus purified, they may attain the beatific vision of God. The Church also commends almsgiving, indulgences, and works of penance undertaken on behalf of the dead:

Let us help and commemorate them. If Job's sons were purified by their father's sacrifice, why would we doubt that our offerings for the dead bring them some consolation? Let us not hesitate to help those who have died and to offer our prayers for them.

In these four short paragraphs the Church sums up its catechesis on Purgatory. There is a temporary stage in which the soul is purified and endures sufferings with assurance and hope of the eternal life to come.

Holiness is not an easy path to walk. No. It is a narrow gate through which a soul must enter into heaven. (cf. Mt 7:14), And God gives man every opportunity to muster his resolve when he falls so that he might try again. Mercy changes everything. The Sacrament of Penance is critical to staying on the right path -- a well formed conscience that intervenes and reminds us that choices have consequences, and due reparation attached, keep that path unfettered and passable.

Pray for the dead with the hope of heaven on this All Souls Day. All the souls in purgatory will return to you in gratitude their intercession from heaven!

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2011-10-31T20:24:00.000-07:00

A Vigil Celebration of the Saints

I just had to reflect on the secular vs. the religious meaning of the vigil of the Solemnity of All Saints. Sadly, the meaning of the day seems to be forgotten, ignored or just dismissed because the reality of hell seems to be lost on us.

The Son of Man will send his angels, and they will collect out of his kingdom all who cause others to sin and all evildoers. They will throw them into the fiery furnace, where there will be wailing and grinding of teeth. Then the righteous will shine like the sun in the kingdom of their Father. Whoever has ears ought to hear. (Mt 13:41-43)

Rick Santorum runs ad featuring daughter with special needs

2011-10-28T16:05:00.000-07:00

Rick Santorum

It's odd really -- to read a story defending Rick Santorum's decision to feature his daughter, Bella, in a new ad campaign. What is so strange about a father, who incidentally is running for POTUS, talking about the achievements of his children, typically developing or otherwise? Why shouldn't he build his credibility as a candidate who stands for life, family values and faith?

The truth is an odd thing, too. It makes certain people [read: the opposition] bristle and squirm. It makes them want to find reasons to discredit it, and malign it. The truth makes people outside of it, want to find reasons to justify their position with excuses and platitudes. Just like when honesty made people go rabid with lies and venomous attacks after Sarah Palin showcased her son, Trig. So too, Rick Santorum is now being accused of ushering out his "disabled infant" to win the sympathies of the voters.

Well, I have to tell you, as the mother of a boy with significant special needs who has lived 16 yrs. longer than some pessimistic doctors predicted, I think Rick and Karen Santorum are honorable and brave; champions for the cause of life and committed to seeing this nation once again respect life from the moment of conception to natural death.

The Santorums are courageous because they continue to strive to bring back decency to public office even after they witnessed, just a few short years ago, how Sarah Palin's family was chewed up and spit out by the media (many of us have forgotten the nightmare that Palin's family endured with the lies and innuendo attached to Trig's paternity, their daughter's reputation being smeared, and Sarah being accused of using her son as a prop to win a campaign...remember?).

Why would the Santorum's put themselves in the bullseye for similar treatment by the media? Why would they open themselves up for criticism by using their child with special needs in a promotional ad for the Presidential Campaign?

One word: LIFE

The Santorums have it right. They enjoy a strong faith, a love for God and for their neighbor. They don't want to see the scourge of abortion, euthanasia, and infanticide continue to destroy the future of America. Rick Santorum is showing the world, through his beautiful family, and specifically, through Bella, that life has value.

It has value, indeed. Bella, because she needs special care, because she has a different way of viewing and interacting with the world, brings more to their family than they can possibly express. Mr. Santorum even goes as far as to say that in the grand scheme of things, we are the ones who have the disability, not Bella, in that her life is full of joy, 24/7.

I won't go any further in my assessment, but will let you decide for yourself.

Do you think Rick Santorum is exploiting his daughter with special needs to promote his campaign for President?

Watch the ad and let me know what you think.

Parenting teens -- coming in for a smooth landing

2011-10-24T08:40:00.000-07:00

Adolescence is one of the most interesting, emotional and dangerous times in a child's life. Building the bridge between childhood and young adulthood can be an unwelcome interruption for the parent/child relationship. But, it doesn't have to be.

Mutual respect is a must. With all the changing moods, hormone levels, body changes, etc., adolescents are more keenly aware of their physical presence, and relatively unsure of their emotional state. Often, boys tends to "clam up" around their parents, and girls, while they may also "clam up", will exhibit more emotional fluctuations than before.

Trying to talk to your teen during this time may seem like fighting a losing battle. But,don't lose hope. Conversations can be had, without the eye rolling that comes from your teen when they think another lecture is on the way.

It's a matter of using the right approach. Let's use landing a plane as an analogy. If you want to land successfully on the runway, you need to use your line of sight, your instruments, and the help of the people in the tower to guide you in safely. No one would want to try and land a plane when flying blindly. You shouldn't try to parent a teen that way, either.

Using your line of sight

You've flown in this plane once before as a passenger -- you've been a teen. You know how easy or difficult it was to talk to your parents, how much you were able to stay on the fray of trouble or get yourself mixed right up in it, and how you thought you were the king/queen of your own universe or an outcast in someone else's. These are just a few examples of the experiential data that you have to share with your teen.

But, how do you share that information without scandal (if there are a few colorful experiences from your teen years) or, on the other hand, without laying on the expectation of perfection (as if you were the perfect teen)?

That's a struggle we all wrestle with in talking to our teens. And, in today's mostly a-moral society, trying not to sound like a hypocrite in your own head because you wish to spare your child from the mistakes you made in the past, and/or trying not to stifle their freedom because you fear what they may encounter, can be a tough line to walk.

Our experiences, when presented in a positive light, can be extremely helpful to our children. For instance, in helping them avoid the top two moral pitfalls, sex and drugs, we don't have to tell our children the scandalous details of our past if there should be any. We can offer examples, stories, scenarios from that time in our lives to illustrate our understanding, the fact that we have walked in their shoes before them.

Using your instruments

There are several instruments at our disposal that are vital to help us guide our children during this time in their lives. The first and most powerful instrument we can use is prayer. Of course, we should be praying to our children's guardian angels and patron saints from the time of their birth. But especially at this time, when they are spreading their wings and testing the waters of "leave and cleave", we should necessarily step up those prayers. We need to pray for ourselves, to be a beacon of light, an example to follow, and a source of wisdom that they can not only respect, but also approach in their need. And, we must pray for them to be prayerful, holy and good during this time. We want to encourage, not force, them to pray for their ability to navigate this period in their lives well, to listen carefully to their conscience and to be strong in their convictions and resilient when the reactions from others seem like rejection.

There are many other resources available to help Catholic parents raise their teens to be good and holy people. Books have been written by respectable and responsible sources (see resource list at the bottom of this post). The internet allows you to search out parenting tips, guides to teaching virtue to your children and how to talk to your teens without argument or creating a spirit of defiance.

And, finally, practice what you preach. If you want your child to develop healthy habits that will grow into virtuous behavior through their teen years, show them how to do it. Be prayerful, speak respectfully, show them how to behave when someone hurts you, laugh when you feel like screaming, discipline with love, and be available to talk. We always seem to be so busy, dividing our time between responsibilities, that sometimes we forget that our first and greatest responsibility is our own domestic Church.

Help from the Control Tower

We don't parent in a vacuum. Hopefully, we have friends that we can talk to about our issues, people we trust to hear our joys and frustrations without the risk of damaging our child's or our family's reputation. Call on those friends. Often, we can use the wisdom of someone who has made this journey through adolescence with their children already. Sometimes we just need someone to listen to our concerns and give us comfort or validation. Wise friends are always an asset.

When we do handle a situation without the best attitude, or give a poor example to our teens -- it happens on a daily basis around here -- we have the Sacrament of Confession to help us move forward. Grace is a powerful weapon against the evils present in our society. Avail yourself of this grace by bringing yourself humbly to the Lord to ask for His forgiveness and guidance. This is one of the most important behaviors you can display to your teen, a humble reliance on the Sacraments.

Remember the beautiful quote from 1 Corinthians 13:1-13:

If I speak in human and angelic tongues but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal. And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, [love] is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury,it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails. If there are prophecies, they will be brought to nothing; if tongues, they will cease; if knowledge, it will be brought to nothing. For we know partially and we prophesy partially, but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. When I was a child, I used to talk as a child, think as a child, reason as a child; when I became a man, I put aside childish things. At present we see indistinctly, as in a mirror, but then face to face. At present I know partially; then I shall know fully, as I am fully known. So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

This is where a parent's heart needs to be when dealing with a teen. It's not always easy, but it is extremely important. Let your spouse, your friends, support groups be your sounding board for frustration; let your teen know how much you love them.

We must try to engage our children in critical thinking about what is good and bad in the world around them. We have to give them the support and the information they need to make difficult decisions. And, all the while, we must love them through this growing stage, trying to keep our sanity intact. If you use the resources available to your best advantage, raising teens can be a fruitful and exciting time that ends with a smooth landing. All things are possible with God, including this!

The list below represents a small sampling of what is available:

Resource for books

The Five Love Languages of Teenagers
The Temperament God Gave You
Raising Pure Teens
Theology of the Body for Teens

Resource for Parenting Links

Our Sunday Visitor Catholic Parenting Links
Celebrate Calm

40 Days for Life meets Gas Leak in Fairfax

2011-10-22T05:00:00.000-07:00

It was an interesting day to be at Eaton Place peacefully protesting for 40 Days for Life. Read the whole story here.

Occupy Rome -- COWARDS & VANDALS

2011-10-17T14:14:00.000-07:00

It's time to wake up and smell the COMMUNISM, people. This isn't about economics, it's about anarchy!

Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.

HT: Mary Beth K. for sharing American Papist

Writers Block -- the piece I just can't write

2011-10-13T14:21:00.000-07:00

Well, this is it. I can't write this piece. There are just too many wonderful things happening in my life to focus on writing.

For instance, I have a full time job. I homeschool my kids. That means that for the bulk of the day, my priorities are to make sure that for 1st Quarter these things happen:

religion -- three different grade levels of religion, plus the added requirements of Confirmation for Meggie.

grammar -- the wonderful world of prepositional phrases, verb phrases, direct object and the object of the preposition, subject and predicate, etc.

math -- two lessons a day are taught at two different grade levels (Annie doing 8/7; Lainie and Grace doing 5/4).

science -- the atmosphere, air pressure, weather systems, patterns and instruments, the ocean's currents, the moon's gravitational pull and its effect on tides, water density, etc., and lets not forget experiments!

reading -- currently focusing on novels: plot, setting, protagonist, antagonist, climax, moral, etc., and writing a good book report.

spelling & vocabulary -- learning how to use a dictionary properly, understanding how grammar, vocabulary and spelling are intertwined.

history -- Colonial America: Stamp Act, 1st Continental Congress, Boston Tea Party, "Give me liberty, or give me death!", House of Burgesses, Parliament, King George III, Benjamin Franklin, 1774, 1776, Declaration of Independence, Thomas Jefferson, etc.

map skills -- learning how to read a legend, directions, grid lines, longitude, latitude, relief maps, etc.

There's also art and German, but thankfully, I don't teach those.

The full time job keeps me pretty busy, but hey, lots of people have a full time job and a family. So, I really have no excuse not to write. I should have some time for pleasure, right?
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Well, then there's my part time job. I am the Student Life Coordinator at Catholic Distance University. That's several hours a week online. I write the announcements for the students, field questions, check in on my partner who manages the online campus, and handle the correspondence. I attend a monthly meeting, brainstorm new ideas and innovations for the online campus and basically work really hard at keeping a smile on each and every virtual face.

But, there's more -- my other part time job. I am working on course revisions for two courses that I will eventually teach at CDU. They are on the Catechism of the Catholic Church one of my most beloved reference books -- can't live without it! That takes about 4-5 hours/week depending upon the lesson content that needs to be revised.

And still more! I am gearing up to become the Administrator of the Associates Degree Program at CDU; this is a position answering to the undergraduate dean, but with full oversight of a degree option at CDU. I'm excited about this. Not only will I teach but, I'll be making sure that Associates Degree students are on track, courses are satisfactory and moving forward as smoothly as melting butter in a frying pan. It will be great to get the word out about this wonderful opportunity that will be new to CDU in January 2012.

And just one or two more little things...Bible study, CDU gala committee, extracurriculars for the kids, and soon to be early rise for swim team carpool.

Did I mention that I was married to a wonderful man?

Funny, I just can't think of a thing to write about because I'm so busy, my brain is whirling. Maybe if my life was just a little more interesting, I'd have something to talk about. But, right now...nope, there's nothing.

God bless!

No Latin Rite Catholics need apply

2011-10-10T07:01:00.000-07:00

We are a universal Church. So, consideration of matters that concern the Church around the world should be of interest to the Body of Christ. I was reading a report about a Catholic Church that was denied the renewal of a building permit to finish construction on their Church in a Russian city. I immediately thought: "Uh oh, Orthodox and Roman Catholics are at odds." I assumed the Orthodox just didn't want the influence of the Western Church in their backyard.

As I continued reading, I realized that this wasn't about variants of faith. This was about politics vs. religion. The permit was denied by Russian authorities whose rationale for denial were based on the lie that construction on the project had never begun.

Archbishop Pezzi, of the Diocese of the Mother of God in Moscow, called it "deliberate discrimination against the Catholic population of Pskov." There are approximately 200,000 residents of this city and only one Catholic Church to serve them -- one Catholic Church that has been under construction since the year 2000, according to the Archbishop.

Little by little, the Catholics of the city of Pskov scrimped and saved to build a portion of the Church facility over the last ten years. In the area they have available to them, they help the poor, homeless and disabled. They worship and they pray in what is only a partial structure.

According to a story in May 2011 in The Telegraph, Russia is being overrun by religious sects. The way the story describes them, they are more like cults -- people in search of a religious fulfillment, but often misled by the bad Theology of a charismatic leader. Russia is a country that has struggled to meld its authoritative style of government with the new found freedoms of a collapsed Soviet Union. A deprived people have been given the opportunity to fill the void of left by forced atheism in their lives.

With potential religious anarchy in their midst, one would think that the rigid Russians would be looking to promote a more organized, structured religion to feed their people. Unless, the undercurrent of atheism is being fed by the extremes of cult-like attitudes. Perhaps the only way to save the state is to stamp out the idea of religion all over again?

Archbishop Pezzi seems to be implying just that in suggesting this is discrimination. It appears that old Soviet tactics may be rearing their ugly heads again. God is a danger to ultimate human control of the populous. Control means order -- and wiping away the fringe that is out of control means throwing out the baby with the bathwater. We've seen it before in the Revolution that overthrew the Czar.

This should be watched with great anticipation. The Archbishop may be facing some stiff opposition. These officials, although they may appear to only be denying a permit, may hold a position that wishes to deny more than a legal freedom. And, protesting in Russia is no joke. Archbishop Pezzi is a courageous man.

10 Best things about my birthday

2011-10-09T18:42:00.000-07:00

10. CAKE

9. Pizza at Generous George's

8. FB birthday messages

7. Lyle & Christian cleaned the deck!

6. No Cooking for me...lazy day all the way around!

5. Linda can still watch kids for an overnight excersion for us!

4. Chance to chat with Fr. Kelleher about Eastern Europe! Dobar dan!

3. Roses, HP Touch Pad & a beautiful purse and photo from the hubby & kids!

2. Children's choir singing Panis Angelicus!

1. Holy Mass & Eucharist on my Birthday!! Awesome!

Simple vs. simplicity

2011-10-06T08:09:00.000-07:00

It's great to live a life of simplicity, not too encumbered by activity or overly rigid routines. Life should be lived searching for goodness and light, with a desire to find peace and joy in worship and service. Simple, right?

But, is simple the same thing as simplicity?

Let's take going to the doctor as an example. In a doctor's office we might want more than just "simple" treatment.

The issues for some of us are complex; the work becomes a little harder, a little more intricate. A doctor's office is no place for simple answers -- "Oh, he'll be just fine." or "I wouldn't worry too much about this."

No, in that setting, there should be scrutiny, maybe even a little tension -- not angry tension -- but, that tension that comes from wanting to solve a mystery, finish a puzzle, etc. (Even if it's just a routine visit). Striving for peace in any situation is still the goal, to serve and to search out goodness and light -- to deliver information, good or bad, with confidence and compassion. This can only be achieve with a heart trained on simplicity. Nothing should ever be entered into for the sake of keeping it simple. That's a trick the devil likes to play with us. He tries to convince us that we can cut corners, not work so hard, keep it simple. This attitude breads complacency.

In the case of my son with significant disabilities, the responsibility of being his advocate in medical situations is crucial. So, when I bring him to a visit, especially for something acute, I am coming expecting there to be some of that "good tension" -- a let's solve this kind of attitude.

That wasn't the case, much to my surprise, the other day when I brought him in with what I thought (read: KNEW) was an abscess on his hand.

The doc looked, and poked, and look again. "I think he bit himself there maybe, or do you have a dog?"

MAYBE? The swollen area was located just above where he has a LARGE callus from a chronic behavior of biting his hand when he gets excited or angry. (That's in the chart -- they've know him for years!)

"I think he's fine. Just watch it and let us know if anything changes."

I was so surprised. I could see the redness forming around the area; below the skin's surface it was starting to look an odd (what I thought was infected) color.

I said quizzically, "Really?"

The doctor stopped, and looked at me. I might have read a little irritation the the look because I was questioning the assessment.

Time to placate mom -- "I'll have another doctor take a look at it for you."

"Thank you," accompanied by a look of disbelief, issued from my mouth.

I've gone to this doctor for years -- this has never been the attitude (so, I'm going to give the benefit of the doubt that something else must have been interfering with this doctor's judgment).

The colleague entered the room and said, "I think we should do a needle puncture and see what is in there." (Read: this thing's infected; why are you asking me?)

So, that's what we did. And, as you probably have already guessed, it was REALLY infected. It took 3-4 minutes for the doctor to clear the infection from the wound. Then it was cultured to check for any "serious" bacteria. A strong topical antibiotic was applied (to combat any resistant bacteria!) and an oral antibiotic was dispensed.

Just 5 minutes prior, I was being sent home to watch. Watch what? Watch my boy get seriously ill?

There's a difference between keeping it simple -- the in and out appointment that meets the insurance companies guidelines for payment -- and simplicity -- the spirit in which we trustfully operate and so, instill peace and confidence in those around us.

What my son received initially was simple treatment; what he needed was treatment in the spirit of simplicity -- which he eventually received.

40 Days for Life in Fairfax

2011-10-02T11:06:00.000-07:00

Click to read: A silent vigil: 40 Days for Life in Fairfax, Virginia

European Evangelization --beginning in an unlikely place

2011-09-29T07:23:00.000-07:00

The fact of the matter is that Europe is burying more people than it is giving birth to these days. The population numbers continue to plummet. And there is a direct correlation to the relativistic attitude and the contraceptive mentality that has taken root on European soil, and in European hearts.

The Churches are empty and the people are disillusioned with organized religion.

In a positive step to combat this religious morass, a Synod of Bishops will meet in Tirana to discuss the New Evangelization of Europe.

Do you know where Tirana is? Well, if you clicked on the link above or know your geography, you do.

It's in Albania!

Now, in my humble opinion, this is one of the most inspired moves I have witnessed on the part of the European Bishops of late. Albania is a small country that was isolated from the world for decades as part of the "cold war", and really didn't rejoin European culture until just recently.

They are wonderful blend of East and Western culture, as well. Albania borders, Montenegro, Macedonia and Serbia (regions that were once part of the former Yugoslavia); they are also border Greece.

I remember when my husband and I traveled through Macedonia, we got as close to the Albania border as was possible, both legally and safely, We were reminded about the Eastern Bloc influence on this country as we approached the Shrine of St. Cyril and Methodius on the Macedonian/Albanian border and were greeted by large signs that said "STAY OUT!"; "TURN AROUND!"; "ARMED GUARDS!"

This is a people of devote and innocent Faith. Their Catholic culture was nurtured under extreme oppression. As a result, it is a beautiful and fruitful place to begin a conversation about the evangelization of Europe, and perhaps the unification of the Churches in the East and the West. (Not to mention that it is also the birth place of Blessed Teresa of Calcutta -- a very powerful intercessor for conversion!)

This is exciting news, and hopefully will yield a 100 fold return (cf. Mark 4:8) for the efforts of the Bishops. The evangelization of Europe is at hand!

Quiet, respectful, behind the scenes?

2011-09-28T17:03:00.000-07:00

In an official statement yesterday, Fr. Pavone said:

Priests for Life has not taken the approach of public battles with, or criticism of, the hierarchy. When there are problems or disagreements or miscommunications that involve the Church leadership, Priests for Life addresses them quietly, respectfully, and behind the scenes.

Perhaps, Fr. P doesn't do his own tweeting or write and authorize his press releases, but this battle started out in the open. He was there for it; he perpetuated it. And, when he had the opportunity to quietly, respectfully, settle it behind the scenes, he tweeted, press released and keep it out in the open.

Mark Shea writes:

The poor guy is destroying everything he worked for. It’s a frightening illustration of that whole wood, hay, and stubble thing from St. Paul, about how our works will be tested. I wonder if I could pass such a test? Keep praying.

1 Cor 3:12 is the Scripture reference (click to read).

Mark is shaking his head. Well, I have to agree, it boggles the mind. Granted, it's a tough test. But, it's how we handle that test, and all the others that come our way, that will show where our convictions lie. Is this about a man's reputation, a cause, a moral principle? Or, is this first and foremost about vows and obedience -- about the vocation of the priesthood?

Most certainly, keep praying -- for all our priests, clergy and religious.

Online presence -- real time friendship

2011-09-26T17:23:00.000-07:00

In this day and age, we do about 75% of our communication online.

We pay our bills online.

We invite people to parties with online evites.

We send emails instead of snail mail.

We make friends all around the country and the world on social networking sites.

At CDU, where I studied Theology, the President, Dr. Marianne Mount, did her doctoral research on what it means to be present to one another online. It's fascinating to consider.

I know that over the five years I worked on completing my MA Theology, I became very close with people I will probably never meet. I continue to keep up with them online, although the majority of us are done with our studies. Something happened in that online interaction -- a common bond, called friendship.

So, when one of my best online buddies moved here to the DC area several years ago, I was thrilled to make the friendship tangible instead of virtual. Deacon Jim Pearce and I met, graduated together and then he and his wife, Melissa, became like family. We went out to dinner together, they joined our family for celebrations in our home and at our parish. They came to the school musical, and Jim served at Lainie's First Holy Communion Mass in an 8lb. Scottish kilt! That online friendship blossomed into a kinship in Christ, one that has blessed us with many, many happy memories.

Today, unfortunately, our friendship reverts back to primarily online status. Lyle and I, along with our girls, just dropped Dcn. Jim at the airport to fly back to CA. His wife, Melissa, preceded him to begin a new job teaching at a medical school. (Hooray for Melissa! -- so proud of you!) But, the saying good-bye and realizing that the connection must now become wireless again was difficult, to say the least.

When we were exclusively online friends, it was simple to think that you could easily connect again. But, once that dimension of virtual becomes real -- when the presence is tangible -- the game is changed. There is a difference between cyber-interaction and face-to-face interaction. And, I prefer the latter.

God bless you Jim & Melissa! If ever I decide to fly again, I will make sure to put CA on the top of the "to visit" list! Until then, I'll have to find enough time to make the drive! We'll miss you here in the DC area -- for real.

Cooking with the Saints at St. Veronica Parish

2011-09-26T06:39:00.000-07:00

St. John the Evangelist

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This is real life

2011-09-22T06:19:00.000-07:00

Things have really ramped up around here. I have been working on achieving the perfect balance between home, homeschool, work and spiritual life. Just when I think I've got it, I don't have it at all!

But, that's just fine. I'm not working this issue on my own. The plan is in God's hands and I am committed to following it the way He wishes it to play out in our lives.

In his mind a man plans his course, but the LORD directs his steps. (Prov 16:9)

If you are like me, a typical type-A, this is a real life saver. I'm not in ultimate control, and I don't have to bear the weight of that cross. Thank you, Jesus!

I am finding that I have to limit my time for writing. I apologize that this blog isn't updated as frequently as it used to be. Writing is now something I am teaching and doing in my work at CDU. This blog has become my luxury instead of my focus, as it has been for almost two years.

I am going to try to post judiciously, keeping in mind what I frequently hear myself tell my children: "When your work is done, then you can take time for leisure -- both of those activities begin with prayer and thanksgiving!

Please keep me and Faith on the High Wire in your prayers!

Here's a way you can help me -- you can suggest the topic:

If you have any ideas topics for this blog, please leave them in the comment area. I would love to write about things that you are interested in learning/hearing about.

Homeschooling: God's creation as our classroom

2011-09-19T13:04:00.000-07:00

We're into our 4th week. The first quarter is nearly half over already. It's amazing to think that we have just picked up and run with this homeschooling thing (as if we had always done it). The curriculum that we are using seems appropriate for all my learners; I can adjust it where I need to, as well.

There have only been a couple of bumps in the road -- sleeping in and staying up late are the worst of them. If that's all I have to worry about, not bad. The kids grumble over certain subjects, just like they would in school; maybe they'd be a bit more discreet at school. Truly, it's been more smiles than complaints, so I think we're doing just fine.

Today, since we've been studying weather systems, clouds, the atmosphere and weather tools, I turned a walk on this very gray day into a weather walk around our neighborhood pond . We talked about the clouds in the sky, the fact that the air felt a bit more heavy and moist, but how the temperature was not hot, rather a bit on the cooler side. That made the moist air less oppressive (e.g., summer humidity in VA). We talked about how the stratus clouds were giving way to more cumulonimbus, and that there must be a front moving in that is going to bring us some heavier rains.

We talked...we talked...we talked...

I didn't realize how much I loved talking to my kids about science, math, literature, history, etc. It was remarkable how pleasant it was to ask questions, get answers and even a few observations from the girls.

I do have to admit that teaching wasn't wasn't supposed to be the focus of this walk at all; it just turned out to be in the end.We were actually just planning to take a break and walk the dog. But, the wonderful thing was that I responded to a bit of inspiration and took advantage of the opportunity to enrich what we had studied by making use of the world around us. No one really noticed, or cared that I quizzed them on their science as we walked. God's creation was our classroom and everyone, even on bikes and scooters, had something to share.

To sum this all up, we are having a marvelous time together. The power struggles are few and far between and the smiles are more frequent than not. Maybe if we can get to bed on time and up early enough, we'll be less stressed to "get it all in" by the end of the day. But, today was a blessing. And now they are off to choir to learn their hymns and sing praise. Great way to end the school day!

Avoiding the cult of personality pitfall

2011-09-17T09:45:00.000-07:00

difference of opinion

Forward:

Sometimes it's hard to accept that a person could have an opinion about a situation that might seem contrary to what you believe is true. Even more difficult to accept is when a person has an opinion that appears to be critical of someone who is wildly popular. And sometimes, we don't want to scrutinize a situation, even though it warrants scrutiny, because we have developed a sense of trust in the person in question (although we only know him based on his exterior works) and want to protect what we believe is a reputation that does not deserve to be impugned. And often, the person who dares to suggest there may be a reason to be wary ends up being -- scrutinized. Ironic! Nonetheless, there is more to be said, that must be said...

Commentary:

As is the case with many celebrities, we are often disappointed by who they turn out to be in "real life". Their celebrity status blinds us, and even convinces us, that they are better than we are. But, in the case of celebrity, we must take a step back and realize that people who are in the public spotlight are the same as we are. They just seem to garner more attention -- have a charisma that surpasses that of the average man. Yet, they still make mistakes, commit sins and have their own personal idiosyncrasies.

Why do we place human beings on a pedestal? What is it that makes us fall in with the "cult of personality"?

When a charismatic personality rises above the average personality, it draws people to itself. And when that personality speaks with conviction about a topic that is worth believing in, it creates a ripple of excitement among those who believe. And if that personality continues to amass support, intensify its message and increase the numbers of those who follow, you have a movement.

Movements can be wonderful things -- those that followed Jesus became known as Christians -- and that movement, which at Pentecost became known as the Church, has been around for over 2000 years. But, Jesus was like us in all things, but for sin. That is what separates God, who creates and inspires movements, from men who do the work to lead those movements inspired by God .

Those who trust in anything or anyone but God, who think they know better than legitimate authority, who reduce solemn institutions to pigeon holed bureaucracies to be worked around instead of obedient to, cause sadness, discouragement and dissent from those institutions. They shake the foundation upon which they have built up their noble goals.

There have been any number of charismatic figures who have taken good people down the paths of disillusionment, or worse, much to their ultimate surprise: Hitler; Jim Jones; Jimmy Swaggart; Rev. Marcial Maciel; Congressman Weiner, Charlie Sheen, etc. Regardless of the message, or the temporal good of the work performed, something more must be observed and assessed -- yes, even judged (that word has become taboo, but it is necessary to judge human actions).

Is the person, in public as well as in private, living a life of virtue. That is the difference between someone who does God's will (or the secular "good"), and someone who wears the facade of holy intention (or the secular, good intention).

When a charismatic person has won over the masses, they can easily fall into pride as a result in their rise in status. Sometimes they may even decide that they are no longer subject to the rules -- that the work they do somehow elevates them above the fray -- that they are the only one who can do said work.

Shouldn't there be controls in place to protect both the reputation and work of the leader, and the hearts of those who follow? Shouldn't there be a standard of behavior that is routinely tested to ensure that no one person, especially a person in authority, can become overly inflated by his position? And, those who engage in the work under such a leader, shouldn't they have the security of oversight and legitimate scrutiny to prevent unwanted upset and scandal?

We are all human; we will all make mistakes, even our heroes. The one and only Person Whom we can trust and follow into any endeavor, be it spiritual or temporal, is Christ Jesus -- because He is trustworthy. If our gaze falls from His Face to the face of a human person, if we try to trust a human person with the same trust we afford Christ, he becomes an idol. At which point, the danger to both leader and follower is inestimable.

Holy Name of Mary

2011-09-12T11:51:00.000-07:00

In today's Gospel we hear about the centurion who's slave is very ill. The slave is important to the Roman officer, and upon hearing that Jesus was in the region, he sends Jewish elders to implore Him to come and heal the slave. But, there's a moment of discernment, a turning point on the part of the centurion -- he sends friends out to beg Jesus not to bother to come. The centurion has a second thought -- I AM NOT WORTHY -- but, he trusts and with hope, begs a favor -- ONLY SAY THE WORD, AND MY SLAVE SHALL BE HEALED. (Lk 7:1-10)

This is the Gospel on the Memorial of the Holy Name of Mary.

Why?

I pondered it during the homily. And as the priest expounded on the wonders of Mary's intercession and her protection, I realized that I am like the slave and Mary is the one with great trust who will bring my need to the Lord, her Son. I am weak, sick, subject to sin and temptation, but I am of great value to Our Lady. I am her child. She will run to the Lord and intercede for me -- heal my child, she is sick and I need her to be well.

Ah, the comfort of Mary, my Mother. She is the Mother of God, and by Divine command, she is my Mother, too. Her name is indeed holy, and I am her humble servant.

Waking up on 9/12

2011-09-12T03:27:00.000-07:00

Well, I thought the national memorials yesterday for the celebration of 9/11 were anemic. I don't say that lightly. It troubles me that the reading of names off a list by celebrities or sponsoring a rock concert could ever be fitting tribute for the tragedy of 9/11/2001.

The local memorials were better able to bridge the gap between what I noticed was a secular response "to do what they must" in honor of the day, versus a heartfelt sincere tribute to the fallen and their families. Neighborhood entities i.e. churches, military organizations, fraternal groups, etc. were able to unite communities in prayer and commemoration. That was missed on the national level. Somehow, it became about how many celebrities were on the list to read the names; who was the featured artist at the concert; it became about them, and not about the victims, the families, the nation.

It would do the organizers of such events some good to take a look at the efforts of the communities -- see how they unite a people to honor and remember what happened to our country on 9/11/2001. This is what I'm talking about: Bloomfield, CO. A little more "Bloomfield" and a little less "Glitz" might serve to provide a more fitting tribute and help people feel a little more patriotic on 9/12.

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2011-09-09T16:06:00.000-07:00

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Time spent wisely on the birthday of Our Lady

2011-09-08T05:40:00.000-07:00

I'm finding it difficult to make time to write.

Anyone who knows me, knows I LOVE to write -- about anything: faith, food, politics...anything.

But, there has been a paradigm shift in my home, in my responsibilities, in my spiritual life.

I have three children at home who need to be taught. Not just reading, 'riting and 'rithmetic. They need to be taught what it means to be a wife and mother. They need to learn how to pray, how to run a house, how to make a budget, how to cook a meal, how to be a lady (this one is the most difficult for me to convey as a dyed in the wool tom-boy! -- so, I'm learning, too), how to respect themselves and become young women worthy of decent young men. They need to learn how to be loving neighbors and good citizens.

Similarly, older women should be reverent in their behavior, not slanderers, not addicted to drink, teaching what is good, so that they may train younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, chaste, good homemakers, under the control of their husbands, so that the word of God may not be discredited. (Titus 2: 3-5)

These words must ring like a crystal bell in the ears of my children. They need to learn SO MUCH; I have so much to teach.

That requires a different use of my time -- a restructuring of priorities. It's a spiritual and a corporal work of mercy to raise a family. It's a means of sanctification. It's a privilege. This noble endeavor will require a little less "me for me" and a lot more "me for them".

Oh, I will still pontificate about any number of things that I read or hear, I just have to be more judicious about what I write and when.

On this Feast of the Birth of Our Lady -- The Blessed Virgin Mary -- I will embrace my vocation as wife and mother. I hope that others will follow suit. Let none of us discredit God, but rather raise up God fearing, fine and respectable children who will change society to echo virtue, to remind a fallen world that our one hope is in God who made us.

Happy Birthday, Blessed Mother!

Pushing through

2011-09-05T19:33:00.000-07:00

It's Labor Day. The day that summer officially ends -- the pools close, the kids are all about to head back to school, the days are just a little shorter.

Today found me rising with a migraine -- but, I couldn't have a migraine. This was my day to get things done. In my house this was "laboring day" -- and labor we did.

The basement got a good cleaning and reorganizing.

Tubs of clothes made their way from bedrooms to basement storage.

Bedrooms were restored to sleeping areas instead of dumping grounds.

And all the while, I was eager to either wretch or crawl under the covers and disappear.

I did neither.

Sometimes, even though things hurt, it's important to push through -- to show those you love that there are times when you can't just give in. In this life, each of us will experience times when it is necessary to draw upon a strength other than one's own -- a supernatural strength -- or just give up. It's a choice. And, choosing to tough things out is a sign of resilience and trust.

Today, I could probably have chosen to put things off, give myself a rest. But, there was a message I wanted the kids to note: Mom loves you so much, cares about who you are and how you live, that even though she's not feeling well, she'll make sure you are taken care of. She won't give up on you!

And, what they also got to see was my husband say, "Why don't you go lie down for a while."

My response, "There's so much to do, and I don't want to leave it all to you. I want to be with the family."

He picked up the pace; the kids picked up the pace. And, before I knew it, there was actually time for me to rest, to take that break. Admittedly, my head was still pounding a bit, but I had some fun with my college student selling books back to Amazon.

While I was cleaning in the basement, I was going through some of the many book shelves and assessing which books I really needed to hang on to and which I would donate. My son suggested we check the ISBN numbers on Amazon. Smart man! I now have a little Amazon gift card to use toward Christmas! Even with the headache, I managed to WOOT, just a little.

There's a joy that comes with offering things up, with pushing through. The joy was seeing a family work together so that they could lighten my load. They did indeed make my yoke easy and my burden light. They got to be Christ to me, because I very much wanted to be Mary to them.

Vacation Part II - The St. Louis Leg of the Journey

2011-09-04T15:12:00.000-07:00

It was a fabulous time in Chicago, but the adventure had to continue. We headed to the edge of Illinois, just shy of Missouri, to stay for two days. We managed to just outrun the massive weather system that took down the stage at the County Fair in Indiana. We noticed the dramatic change in the sky as we were driving. And just having seen Tornado Alley, were a little concerned by the look of the clouds. Wouldn't you know it, when we got our hotel that night, the news confirmed the tragedy that happened in Indiana. It was that same storm system that tracked right across our driving path.

Sky changed from bright blue to dark gray in a matter of moments!

We stopped for a brief period in Springfield, IL to visit the burial place of President Lincoln. This is when the sky first started changing. You can see that there is beautiful blue sky peaking through. The sky changed from clear blue to dark black in a matter of minutes. We didn't linger long at the President's grave.


Stopped just briefly to grab this photo with the President. You think people like to rub his nose?

Next we headed to the boarder of Illinois and Missouri. We stayed on the Illinois side. We arrived pretty late at night so, our adventures in St. Louis began the next morning.


The Basilica Cathedral in St. Louis was stunning!


They have the 2nd largest collection of mosaics in America.

This is one of only a few bronze casts of the Pieta made during WWII to preserve the art in case of attack or confiscation.

We enjoyed the tour of the Basilica Cathedral, and then headed to the Arch. A visit to St. Louis wouldn't be complete unless you've seen the Arch. That's where I should have left it -- looking at it from the outside. We decided to bear the very long wait to make the journey to the top -- 684 ft. It was over an hour wait for us to get on line to wait for another 45 min. to make the 4 min. trip to the top.

St. Louis Arch -- Gateway to the West.

We decided that we would take Eddie to the top, too. Little did we realize how cramped and unrealistic this would be. The car you travel to the top of the arch in is pod-like -- round and very confined. It wasn't easy for Lyle to get Eddie in through the hobbit hole entrance of the 5-seater pod, especially considering his lack of flexibility with the spinal fusion and rods. But, Eddie's a trooper, and he managed to adjust himself just so in order to get in.

Claustrophobic is just not descriptive enough for the conditions inside this pod. If you didn't know the people you were riding with up to the top, by the time you got there, you were almost family -- that's how close you are. And, there is a window in the pod; that should be a good thing, right? It shows you solid wall, beams and cables. I just tried to keep looking at my children, and hoped for the best.

Annie & Meggie peering out the tiny windows at the top of the Arch

View from the little window

Funny thing -- the ride up takes 4 min.; the ride down takes 3 min. That one minute difference made me nervous. I wanted out. And, I wasn't alone!

Next came the "Rusty River Ride". It wasn't called that but, we all nicknamed it that after the trip. There wasn't much to look at that wasn't rusty along that stretch of the Mississippi River. The chance to sit down and enjoy the breeze was welcomed, though.

Girls on the Riverboat

The walk back to the car was time for bonding. It looks like dragging, but they were actually laughing and having a good time.

Here's where I lament technology. My camera had a meltdown right after this picture. It decided that it was only going to take motion shots with lots of blur. We tried and tried to fix the setting, heaven only knows what happened to them, but I was completely unsuccessful. So, none of the pictures from Belleville, IL and the Shrine of Our Lady of the Snows survived. The SD card went blank.

I guess this is as good a reason as any to look into getting a new camera. I do have a birthday coming up!!

Hope you enjoyed the journey, as far as I could take you, in pictures. I can't wait for the next big outing to do another photo chronicle. Until that time, the family has decided that vacation next year is New England. I can't wait!

Self-abortion mom: fetal pain law unconstitutional

2011-09-01T19:28:00.000-07:00

There are probably a remote few people who read this blog that could ever track with a decision made by an Idaho woman to self-terminate her pregnancy after 20 wks. Her reason: because she couldn't afford to have another child and raise the three she already had. The vast majority of readers will cringe at the idea of any type of abortion at any gestational age, let alone a self-inflicted abortion when the baby is nearly old enough to survive with some assistance outside the womb. Yet, Jennie Linn McCormack did just that; she, with the assistance of her sister, acquire pills over the Internet that would spontaneously abort her child. Then, she placed the child in a box and hid it at her home. (read the whole story here)

Stop! Enough! Right?

Why would would someone do such a thing?

It's absolutely sinister!

But, it's morally equivocal in this society. And here's why.

Sin isn't in the vocabulary any longer -- what makes "me" happy is. The pleasure seeking, self-gratification, morally flat lined members of the society control the ubiquitous media that influences and diminishes the conscience of the populous in this nation. "Do what you want, without consequence," is the mantra of a culture lost in its own self-absorption.

McCormack was able to get pills over the Internet to kill her baby. Although she couldn't afford an abortion; had three other children, no husband, but a sperm donor of sorts; a tiny monthly income; she somehow scraped up enough money to buy abortion drugs on the web. (There are sites that tell you exactly how to proceed.) I wonder if shipping was free? She no longer had to worry about the cost of an abortion. She didn't need to worry about the Idaho law that restricts abortions beyond 20 weeks because of the possibility of fetal pain.

She just did it!

On her own!

And with apparently the same respect she has for herself and the dignity of her body, she placed her unwanted, murdered baby in a box and hid it away.

But, what does it suggest that she kept the body of the child in a box at her home?

Several things come immediately to mind: the mom is psychologically unstable; society's general lack of respect for the human person; keeping your aborted child in a box has become acceptable. The most hopeful prospect of this gruesome discovery is perhaps that mom has a conscience, and her guilt wouldn't let her part with what she had just done.

We all have a conscience. It is what we do about our conscience that impacts how we act; what we say; what we believe; and ultimately, who we are in the world. If we have developed our conscience to do good and avoid evil, then we will abhor even the mention of abortion. But, if we have allowed our conscience to become like Swiss Cheese, full of gaps and underdeveloped, the expectation should be that just about anything will become acceptable to quell the anguish that results from killing your own child.

For instance, McCormack, who was arrested and charged with a felony after the child was found in the box in her home, has decided to sue the State of Idaho. Why? Because she, and her attorneys, believe that the fetal pain law is UNCONSTITUTIONAL!

Take a deep breath and count to 10 backwards. (That's what I had to do.)

The lawyers for McCormack offered this as a rationale for the self-induced abortion:

McCormack was unmarried and unemployed at the time of her pregnancy – with an income of $200 to $250 a month – and already had three children. She couldn't afford the time or money it would take to travel to Salt Lake City to get an abortion, the lawsuit says.

McCormack would like the world to see her as a victim; burdened by laws that rob her of the personal freedom to do as she pleases, to be irresponsible, remain unemployed and kill her own child. Unfortunately, that's exactly how she should be perceived.She is a victim,but not of whom she believes is the enemy.

A culture that denies natural law and the biological truth that a man and a woman come together and conceive a child, is a culture that is in grave danger of extinction. This is not a new revelation. The pro-life movement has been preaching this reality for decades, and for decades we have been watching millions of human beings murdered by abortionists. What is disturbing, however, is that, although pro-lifers are preaching, the public sector has more power and more control than any activist group. Any publicly funded institution, especially one with a bent toward education, is going to promote relativistic, modern social values, exclusionary of any notion of religion, objective truth or morality -- an hollow value system. And, this leaves the victim in ignorance, with no moral compass whatsoever.

Aquinas says this about a choice made outside a properly formed conscience:

In speaking "of ignorance of choice," we do not mean that choice is a sort of knowledge, but that there is ignorance of what ought to be chosen. ST 2-1.13.1

This is what the what culture has become: a whirlwind of ignorant choices propagated and perpetuated by those who wish to keep others ignorant. Somehow it soothes the guilt of poor choices made by many in the past. There is a conspiracy a foot to collectively annihilate the consciences of as much of the population as possible. It borders on psychedelically self-destructive, because with this notion of "ignorance is bliss" come the pseudo-euphoria of momentary pleasure.

In McCormack's case, she needed an outlet for the pain. It wasn't enough to keep her secret hidden in a box -- stashed away for only her hopelessness to gaze upon. No, once her secret was discovered, once her guilt was laid bare for the world to peruse, her pride overcame her, almost instinctively protective. The only remaining thing to do was to defend her irrational choice to kill her baby and keep it in a box, by declaring that the law designed to protect and defend a helpless human person, is irrational and unconstitutional. It's an act of desperation to save face; its an plea for help -- and the only help she is receiving is from unscrupulous attorneys eager to make a hefty commission if she should win damages from the state.

Miss McCormack is a product of this social phenomena, this culture of death, which is the result of ignorance and pride en masse. In the eyes of God, this may be her only eternal defense. She was taught to be a victim, remains ignorant and is consistently reinforced in both those areas.

HT: Mary Beth K. for sending me the article.

Best friends, not bed partners

2011-08-29T19:38:00.000-07:00

I have to admit, I have never been a fan of Sesame Street.

Not as a child; not for my kids; not at all.

Why, you ask?

I simply couldn't relate.

Inner city life, apartment buildings, a store on the corner where people met and chatted wasn't the world I grew up in. I lived out on Long Island. I had a duck farm less than a mile from my house.

The strip mall with the drug store, grocery and department store was about 1/4 mile away. No one gathered there to chat. Kids hung out there to get in trouble; I was never allowed!

Sesame Street wasn't a show meant for me. It was a show meant for inner city kids whose parents worked full-time, or couldn't speak English because they were immigrants. It had an even more narrow focus at its inception; it was a show meant for inner city New Yorkers, specifically.

It wasn't a bad show. It just wasn't a universally appealing show, although the puppets and their human counterparts were very likable.

But, that quickly changed once someone realized the show's potential social scope. It became a vehicle, similar to what has happened in public school arena, ripe to be hijacked by an agenda. The tenor of the show changed in the1980's from ABC's, and Bob talking about being neighbors, to social issues and commentary mixed in with some flashy letters, numbers and street savvy puppets. It even took on the quality of a soap opera, when it married off two of it's favorite characters, Luis and Maria, in 1988. The episode addresses wedding jitters, and Luis even sings a song about running away from the wedding. It depicts a roof top ceremony with a man in a Roman collar reciting vows (no specific religion is mentioned); a ceremony where the woman is in love and the man has commitment phobia. How exactly does the alphabet and counting numbers fit into this social scenario?

Celebrity became the factor in achieving and maintaining its audience, as well. The show allowed for outspoken celebrities with illicit values to be featured in its episodes. Tolerance became the battle cry for a show that was founded to help kids learn the rudiments of education. It pushed the social envelope, a barrier that, as the years passed, would become thin as balsa wood to crack.

And what was once an innocent idea with noble intent, lead by a board of directors whose head was a Harvard PhD with the goal to provide children a level of early intervention in education, has morphed into the playground for the morally corrupt.

Why shouldn't Bert and Ernie by gay? Why shouldn't they get married? After all, so many of us know children whose parents are gay married couples, don't we? Wouldn't an enormous number of children benefit from having their life situation portrayed as being typical?

Not really. Only 3.5% of the nations population is gay according to a recent UCLA study. Again, we go back to the issue of universal appeal. This particular topic would be foreign to nearly all of the children in the target demographic, ages 2-4 yrs.

Chuck Colson, at LifeNews.com breaks down exactly why Bert & Ernie should not get married; why it is just too large a concept for the developmental age of the audience; and why it is a total misconception of friendship. He, and those he quotes, make excellent arguments. And, while Colson's story does suggest that the powers that be at Sesame Street have decided to leave Bert & Ernie's characters as they are -- just best friends -- stating as their reason that as puppets they don't have a sexual orientation, that's where they stop.

Sesame Street doesn't take the opportunity to unequivocally discount the idea of a gay married couple ever being portrayed in their cast. It wouldn't be any great surprise if somewhere in the future human characters develop to reflect this politically charged social agenda. It just isn't going to be cleverly introduced and made manifest through the most obvious choice of puppet characters who have a presumed sexual history together as roommates.

Can you believe that this discussion is emanating from children's educational programming!

Ultimately, after all these years, nothing has changed. Sesame Street wasn't a show I could identify with as a kid, and I certainly don't identify with it now.

Earthquakes and Hurricanes

2011-08-27T20:56:00.000-07:00

An unexpected earthquake this week in VA caused people up and down the east coast to literally shake in their shoes. It caused damage to major landmarks, and did structural damage to structures throughout the region. The earthquake also brought down upon the good folk of the east coast some major criticism and scorn from our neighbors in the west.

But, I'd say we weathered the earthquake pretty well, as we were gearing up for a hurricane. Water bottles, milk, bread, eggs and toilet paper were absent at the grocery stores. It was snowmageddon-like in August.

Evacuate! Evacuate! Evacuate!

Happily, not much has happened to us so far. The wind is starting to whip up, but nothing like previous hurricanes I've lived through on Long Island in my youth.

When the clouds are full, they pour out rain upon the earth. Whether a tree falls to the south or to the north, wherever it falls, there shall it lie. One who pays heed to the wind will not sow, and one who watches the clouds will never reap. (Ecc 11:3-4)

My observation is this: I'd rather have time to prepare for a hurricane that doesn't end up making much of an impact, than be surprised by an earthquake that does.

Stay safe everyone. Our prayers are with you.

Lessons in the grocery store

2011-08-26T19:02:00.000-07:00

There's a hurricane on its way.

And EVERYONE was out at the store preparing for its arrival.

But, apparently one older man in the store was at his limit with humanity and had a hurricane already raging in his attitude -- especially toward children.

As my daughter eagerly helped me do our regular shopping for the week amidst the crazed hurricane preparation squads, she accidentally stepped in front of his cart.

Such a sour face I have only rarely seen. Scrooge-like, and I do not exaggerate.

"I'm sorry," squeaked her smiley voice, expecting a "Don't worry, darling!" in return.

It was not to be. He scowled at her with pursed lips and squinted eyes bearing down on what might have been nothing more than a worthless obstacle in his way.

I turned to him, "She said she was sorry," perhaps he was hard of hearing. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. That's the Christian thing to do, after all.

Nothing -- not a sound. He just slung his crooked posture over his cart and skulked away.

I looked at a very confused 9 yr. old. What do you tell an innocent child about such bitterness? How do you explain that someone, a person who doesn't even know you, can have such disdain for you?

I grabbed her hand and gave it three squeezes -- Father, Son & Holy Spirit.

I looked into her beautiful, wide hazel eyes and said, "That's how people behave when they forget how to love, when no one loves them. What should we do for him?"

"Pray?" came her small voice, still a little unsettled by what had happened. Her expression filled with confusion and hurt.

People standing near us who saw what happened stopped and listened to me talk to her for a moment. Then, they approached and said, "He's our neighbor and about the grouchiest person we've ever met."

I smiled at them kindly. I knew they were trying to help my girl by letting her know that it wasn't just her, but everyone he encounters that feels the bite of his contempt.

I said, "Thank you. I'm sure he's lonely."

We walked off continuing to speak about how loneliness, sadness, suffering, etc. can make a person empty inside. As we approached the end of one aisle, I told my daughter -- we were having a conversation that others could hear -- that lonely people need to be loved. They need to feel the presence of God through the mercy and kindness of others, through our prayers and our forgiveness.

As I said these words, he passed right before us, and shot us an uncomfortable glance. I didn't quite know what to make of it, but I smiled in response.

He didn't say he was sorry, but he didn't grimace at my daughter either. Perhaps he had realized that his behavior was untenable, that not even a child would be permitted to behave as he did in public without some correction. Perhaps...

My daughter learned two essential lessons at the grocery store today:

It's important to love your neighbor, even when they treat you badly. That's the love of Christ.

&

Always watch where you're going!

Getting used to the pace

2011-08-25T20:54:00.000-07:00

The Vestergirls -- river cruise; St. Louis, MO

I took a year off from active employment to complete my MA Theology. That year was nice, hardly relaxing, but necessary to regroup and assess what was to come next. I truly didn't think that I would go from volunteering as RCIA coordinator at my parish to Student Life Coordinator at Catholic Distance University, and be revising courses to be taught possibly by next September. Wow!

I also never imagined that in that time I would recognize a need to be closer to my little ones. While I was studying for my MA, I was suffering from an elusive condition that was causing chronic migraines. I was just barely making it through life, let alone courses, work and raising a family. Yet, it all worked out. But, there nagged at me the sense that while I tried to manage the migraines and the multiple responsibilities, I lost precious time with the girls.

The oldest is so resilient, and I love to be involved with her many varied activities. She'll stay at her current school. But, her three younger sisters, they need a little more one on one with mom. It will be an adventure, no doubt. And while I have momentary doubts about educating three of them at once, I am so sure we are in the Father's will with this choice. It's the right thing.

It will be fun to juggle the job, the teaching and the activities again. [Pray the migraines do not recur! -- they've been relatively mild for the past couple of years] My hope is that what is necessary will be taught and learned; what I'm responsible for in my job, God will provide the time to achieve; and what is the most important job of all -- my vocation as wife and mother -- will only grow stronger through His constant gift of grace and the intercession of His Blessed Mother.

For I know well the plans I have in mind for you—oracle of the LORD—plans for your welfare and not for woe, so as to give you a future of hope. (Jer 29:11)

Working together for the good

2011-08-23T19:25:00.000-07:00

9:30pm...

12:00am...

1:30am...

4:40am was going to come very soon, and still sleep was elusive.

We had big plans, important plans. We were headed to Washington, DC to help at the Gift of Peace House of the Missionaries of Charity. This was a opportunity for service that we had long anticipated, and everyone was excited about it. I was not going to let a sleep demon get in the way!


Missionaries of Charity Sisters

I said a Rosary, and finally managed to to drift off from 1:30am to about 3:30am, but was awakened by my son, Eddie, who also wasn't sleeping well. My husband, Lyle, had tried to soothe him several times, but he was uncomfortable. Being non-verbal, it is difficult for Eddie to tell us what is upsetting him. We have to observe his behaviors and check his temperature. And, when Eddie is uncomfortable in the middle of the night, it typically means for the rest of the night, all night.

So, by 4am, I gave up trying to sleep and just decided to offer it up.

I got up and prepared for what I knew would be a long day, but hopefully, a very good day for the glory of God.

The girls rose, groggy and a bit reluctant to leave their cozy beds at 4:50am, but were driven forward by their excitement. We met up with our friends and headed down for Mass, morning prayers, breakfast and lots of manual labor in support of these wonderful religious sisters who do so much to serve others through their prayers and work.

The entire morning, the very vibrant, and tremendously giving sisters delegated: we peeled potatoes, chopped vegetables, breaded and fried eggplant (actually, this was Marie's signature task which she never left!), picked vegetables, weeded gardens, cleaned bathrooms, mopped floors, and simply rested in the joy that comes from service, and the peace that emanates from the Missionaries of Charity Sisters.

After about 5 hrs of work and cheer, our group (Kim w/5 kids; Marie w/6 kids; Me w/4 kids) said our goodbyes to Sister Gemma and Mother Clovis, who both worked side by side with us. We made our way to our cars to have an intimate tailgate for 18 before we headed for home. Shortly after noon, we were on our way down North Capitol St. headed to Constitution Ave., which parallels the DC Mall, and over the bridge to Virginia.

We arrived at home after a really wonderful morning a little after 1pm. Everyone was exhausted. Meg rode home with her friends and headed to their house. We brought our friend Grace home with us to relax in front of a movie.

I was headed to take a nap when my friend Peggy stopped by to chat and check on her daughter, whom she hadn't seen since 5am. We got engrossed in a conversation on the front porch as she started to leave. We must have been there for 20 min. chatting casually.

The windows began to rattle and shake.

The house literally heaved.

We rolled with the porch as it rose and dipped.

"What was that?" she asked, quite surprised.

"It was an earthquake!" I offered, half shocked, half excited.

I couldn't believe that one of the most peaceful days, would end with an event of seismic proportions, literally!

The juxtaposition of the peace to the peril was unbelievable, almost surreal. The pure joy of serving those in need, those who reach well beyond themselves to help the most helpless among us, compared to the anxiety caused by 20 sec. of undulating earth was remarkable. And, all held in existence by the power of God; all working together for the good, for those who love God. (cf. Rom 8:28)

It was a day of feeling proud to have served, coupled with the fragile and humble reality that we are small in comparison to the Father. It reminded me of a quote from Scripture:

My hand made all these things when all of them came to be—oracle of the LORD. This is the one whom I approve: the afflicted one, crushed in spirit, who trembles at my word. (Is 66:2

He is all kind, powerful, benevolent, merciful, just, holy, knowing, charitable...He is ALL PERFECT! He desires that each of us come to understand ourselves in relation to Him and to His creation. Because we live in a world that is impacted by sin, evil plays a part in our lives every single day -- moral evils and physical evils. As we grow closer to God, we begin to understand that suffering is an opportunity to know ourselves better, to know the God Who dwells in our hearts better, as a result.

We are small and He is great -- He creates and He holds creation tenderly in His hands as we work our way through the self-imposed sickness that is sin in our world. Recognizing His "holy interruption" in our lives will help us to understand more vividly, how blessed we truly are to serve with charity, to suffer with dignity, to LIVE with vigor!

Vacation memories in pictures: Part 1

2011-08-22T17:52:00.000-07:00

It all starts at the zoo! Brookfield Zoo; Brookfield, IL
Hoooo's, that peaking out behind Annie & the owls?


Mandatory Moose picture!

Every couple needs a picture in front of the Bison Prairie Grill... where they just ate Bison burgers and Bison chili -- which seemed a little cruel...


...right next to the Bison exhibit!

Moo-ving on to the Museum of Science & Industry and the newest featured exhibit -- Girls on livestock!

One small step for men...one long day for the Vestergirls!

Chuga-chuga

Though you can't see it in this photo, the colored sparks from this static electricity orb kept Eddie focused for about 5 min. -- SHOCKING!

Contemplating the mission to Mars in the Space Flight Center

We were stuck in traffic for about 30 min., mostly in front of this sign, trying to get down town Chicago to see Millennium Park -- the fact that the name of the mayor is simply a sticker over the old mayor's name is disconcerting...just how long will this parkway renovation take exactly? Hmmm..tax dollars must work more slowly than other dollars.

It looks like a simple water fall streaming off a wall. This was by far the most bizarre thing we saw in Chicago. Here's why...

Every few minutes the face, which changes periodically, puckers up its lips and spits water at you! YUCK!

Then came THE BEAN... it's actually a mirrored, kidney shaped object...

...which ended up being really COOL & A LOT of FUN!


And to make sure that we took in as much as we could...Lake Michigan was a MUST!

St. Louis was only a day away!!!

ON VACATION...I'm hanging out my shingle

2011-08-08T06:30:00.000-07:00

I'll check in periodically, but probably won't be posting anything substantial.

You never know though, wonderful things happen on vacation!

I may not be able to contain myself!!

Until then rest your hearts and minds on this:

Think! The heavens, even the highest heavens,
belong to the LORD, your God,
as well as the earth and everything on it. (Dt 10:14)

and

go to the sea, drop in a hook,
and take the first fish that comes up.
Open its mouth and you will find a coin worth twice the temple tax.
Give that to them for me and for you." (Mt 10: 17)

God bless!

A day at the beach: an act of faith

2011-08-07T15:00:00.000-07:00

Amazing waves at Assateague Island National Seashore/ 2011

Faith, it's an amazing thing. You simply trust that what God tells you is true, and then let His will be done in your life because you believe He loves you. And, you love Him back with all your heart. It's really easy!

Yeah, right!

We all get mired down by problems and anxieties now and again. That's natural. Stresses that occur can cause all sorts of disruption. That is when we need faith most. I heard this morning in the homily our priest say something very simple, yet very wise. I paraphrase:

98% of what we worry about never comes to pass. We struggle, working ourselves up over what will be, making up all sorts of imaginary outcomes to have nothing of the sort happen. It often ends up much better than we expected. Now, imagine how much more peaceful life would be if we didn't worry?

Well, that's exactly the plan we had yesterday. No worries -- who cares how long it takes to get to the beach, we really just need to get away and enjoy a day in the sunshine together. It was a 7+ hour round trip car drive, only a two days before we are heading on a big vacation adventure. But, obviously it was the right thing to do, because we trusted that this was the best plan. We had faith that God wanted us to spend the day together just having some fun family time, making memories. It was great!

Ponies on parade -- EVERYWHERE!


Kathy -- who always seems to be behind the camera and rarely in front of it!

Eddie (lounging in his beach wheelchair courtesy of the Park Rangers) and Lyle (who spent about 1 1/2 hrs boogie boarding and body surfing with the girls -- Wahahaha, WIPE OUT!)


The Crew -- Ready to hit those waves and catch a ride into shore!

We are taking a little more time to prep for the bigger trip. And, I do notice that the tension is slightly higher than taking the impromptu day trip. But, all in all, if we can get out of here with: a clean house; laundry done; bags packed; lunches made; snacks, movies, books and games together; and everyone smiling, this is going to be the best trip ever!

Just have faith, and then do your part; that's the order of simplicity. Peter lost faith when the Lord commanded him to walk out to him on the sea. He took his eyes off of Jesus as the winds whipped up and the sea started to churn. (cf. Mt 14) That'll prove fatal every time. We intende to keep our eyes focused on The Lord. He will make all things work together for good. (cf. Rom 8:28) And, we'll have it all together by tomorrow!

Hope to have lots of pictures and stories to share about our trip along the way. Until then, love the Lord, wrap yourself in the Blessed Mother's mantel and pray for us -- we'll be praying for you!

Design style: Fickle

2011-08-05T11:51:00.000-07:00

Well, it's a new look again. I keep changing my mind. And that's a woman's prerogative, right?

Some days I just want a warm, cozy feel, like you're by a fireside looking over a winter ocean as the waves toss against a grey, snow-filled sky -- where's my glass of brandy? -- kind of blog atmosphere.

Other days, I want it bright and clear, like a breezy summer day at the beach. The sand is warm, the sun sparkling and cheerful as the rippling tide beckons you to come in for a swim -- followed by a barbecue and a beer -- kind of blog.

So, I rock back and forth between the two. I hope the rocking isn't making you sea sick!

Nonetheless, I never change the blog haphazardly. I put my moods and my desires before the Lord. I appeal to His will, and He really hasn't objected to the format changes. So, I go right ahead and feed the craving for atmospheric conditions to shift on the home page.

It's a process of getting to know myself better, and in turn I hope that you will get to know me better. (Not just that I'm fickle about blog backgrounds!)

No, that it's a dance I do in prayer on those beaches in my mind. That each time I talk to the Lord, or ask His Mother's intercession, about how He wants me to proceed, the answer is typically that there is someone new to whom the change will appeal. Someone who needs to get to know the Lord and His Church a little better.

Perhaps my blog is the first place that person will encounter God and His message of love and life. Or, find out about the Blessed Mother, or how to live their life doing all the normal things with a heart centered on Christ in His Church.

So, I pray, I listen and I change; I pray, I listen and I grow, always obedient as Jesus was obedient to His parents. And so goes the blog, always mindful of the verse from Luke:

He went down with them and came to Nazareth, and was obedient to them; and his mother kept all these things in her heart. And Jesus advanced (in) wisdom and age and favor before God and man.(Lk 2: 51-2)

God bless.

Vacation prep -- is there such a thing?

2011-08-02T07:10:00.000-07:00

I don't know how it happens, but we just don't plan our vacations until the very last minute. We are going on a rather grand trip to the mid-West and we are winging it all the way!

There are lots of places we want to visit and things we hope to do, but as of right now, there is only one room booked at the Inn for this family, no tickets purchased, no itinerary laid out.

Saying that, we have done this for YEARS...and it amounts to the best vacation adventures EVER!! It has never (well maybe one time many, many years ago on Easter weekend in Italy) resulted in a mad scramble to find a place to stay, nor have we ever had trouble located a Church for Mass. And, the thrill is really not knowing exactly where we are going to land, and no pressure to leave a certain place at a certain time to be at a certain hotel. IT'S AWESOME!

Now, many of you may be cringing at the thought of a family like ours trying to make something like this work.

What about Eddie? Don't you need to know that he will have appropriate accommodations?

Don't you need two adjoining rooms to keep the family together?

All I can say is that it has never been a problem. We have tried to book places in advance -- at the beach -- and we wished we hadn't made a reservation based on a picture on the Internet.

Now, this is not a situation that would work well for beach house rentals. I suggest that you do that well in advance. Although, I do have a friend who swears by waiting until the absolute last minute to find the house that an agency is desperate to rent, and then negotiate a discount. So, there could be advantages to last minute arrangements there, too.

But, we're not stressed with anything more than bringing enough clothing for the trip, and having enough snacks to make it to our first destination -- somewhere in Ohio.

I'll try to keep you filled in on our progress (Oh, I do have to point out that we will be staying with family on this trip, so those accommodations are already arranged, but that is typically not the norm).

I can't wait for the adventure to begin!

How do you plan for vacation? I'd love to know! Leave a comment.

Local prolife OB/GYN to speak at Be Not Afraid Conference

2011-08-01T07:10:00.000-07:00

Baby Gianna shortly after her birth -- now, St. Gianna Lucy

Read about how Perinatal Hospice helped Suzanne & Matt, and how Be Not Afraid is working to establish more opportunities for special babies to be brought to term.

examiner.com (click here)

Catholic Online Virginia Edition (click here)

Floating a little further away

2011-07-29T10:40:00.000-07:00

Early this morning, I dropped my daughter off to go on a canoeing excursion with the parish youth group. They were headed to a spot outside of Front Royal, VA to begin their trip. It was sure to be an exciting time, starting with Mass and breakfast, then boarding canoes and navigating the Shenandoah. But, last night I found myself ruminating over the possibilities of such an excursion. I suppose any mother, who is sending a child to do such a thing, and has never been on a canoe trip down a major river herself, might do the same.

The most obvious concern -- Who will she be with?

I was about to send her off, trusting that the people who will be with her will be a positive influence; that she will, in turn, be a positive influence on others. I'm not there; it's not a controlled environment like school, or a club meeting -- it's a canoe trip down the Shenandoah.

Making sure my daughter is surrounded by loving, faithful people is a main consideration in any activity in which we partake. After all, Scripture tells us: "Walk with wise men and you will become wise, but the companion of fools will fare badly." (Prov 13:20)

Of course, she's with our Church youth group, and our Asst. Pastor and two Seminarians were going, so I was able to quickly assuage those fears.

Just as quickly, I moved on to another fear, less rational and significantly more upsetting -- What if the canoe tips and the current is fast? Or, she hits her head on a rock? Panic.Panic.Panic!

Parenting -- it's the harbor for some pretty unpleasant imaginings.

You can't live in fear -- we all know that. Fear is the great paralyzer that keeps you from living. Instead, we must become like Mary and less like Martha:

The Lord said to her in reply,“Martha, Martha, you are anxious and worried about many things. There is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part and it will not be taken from her.” (Lk 10:41-2)

Trust -- it's a difficult thing to do when you are raising children. Trust that you have given them what they need; trust that God will protect and provide; trust that others will care for their bodies and their souls the same way you would. And then, pray, like Mary at the feet of Jesus, that they will receive fully all that is the will of God.

Finally, in the wee hours of the morning, I regained my peace and was able to sleep.

As the sun rose, I found the courage to also rise and bring my daughter to this canoe trip, independent of mom and dad. All I had to remember was that her heavenly Father is always watching, the Blessed Mother holds her close, and her guardian angel is by her side while she floats, amidst the tones of babbling water, laughter and merriment that comes with an adventure down the Shenandoah. While she floats a little further away from the protective nest of our home.

Top 10 reasons technology is NOT my friend

2011-07-28T19:24:00.000-07:00

10. It causes me to scream at inanimate objects!

9. Contrary to popular opinion, it does not make life easier!!

8. It is made for people who understand it before they even see it!

7. An apple is an apple, not a computer!

6. Countless hours are wasted trying to figure out how to upload, download, paste, print, copy, move, share, email and whatever the heck else you can do with digital information!!!

5. Microsoft windows, is neither "micro", nor "soft" and I wish to throw it out a window!

4. If your fox is on fire, put it out -- don't make me browse it!

3. Tweets, blogs, online accounts, friends, posts, status updates -- OH MY!

2. My fingers are nicknamed "Schwarzenegger" being the most highly developed muscles on my body from all the keyboarding I do!

Wait for it...wait for it.

The #1 reason Technology is not my friend:

1. I deleted a month's worth of items from a conference room at my new job without even really trying. Was I supposed to do that? Say -- NO!

Share your techno nightmares with me. Misery loves company, and I feel so much better knowing that technology is not only my nemesis.

My mother was never this busy

2011-07-27T14:07:00.000-07:00

Today alone, I scheduled and rescheduled four girls activities to begin at 6pm this evening and end around 6pm Friday evening. Between the multiple phone calls to arrange drop offs and pick ups, manipulating my work schedule and weaving it all around established appointments, I've managed to make things work.

I don't remember my mother ever doing any of this. If we wanted to go somewhere or play with someone, we went outside, got on a bike and went. Very rarely did Mom have to take me anywhere. She worked full-time (rare back in the day) as a nurse, so I either got myself to where I was going or asked for a friend's mother to give me a ride.

Mom would leave at around 8am and tell me to make sure I ate lunch and had a good day. I think those days are pretty much over. The fabric of society is fraying around the edges, and it's not as comfortable as it used to be. I can't feel as secure as my mother once did about sending my kids out for the day.

Here's one really good reason why:

Sex Offender Registry Virginia

For my zip code alone there are 15 registered offenders, the key word being "REGISTERED" -- no one knows who the "unregistered" offenders. With the legal system willing to allow sex offenders to re-enter our neighborhoods, there is less comfort in allowing your child to just go run and play.

It is illegal for kids to play outside unsupervised according to Maryland Police

Not only do parents have to worry about who is around when their kids are playing outside, they also have to worry about whether they will be considered the criminal! Imagine my mother doing today what she did back when I was a kid. She'd have been arrested! I might have been removed from the home.

So, we schedule and we plan, we enroll and we transport. Our kids are no longer growing in independence, but increasingly in dependence. And parents -- well, we are just losing our minds trying to keep up with our kids social lives, organized physical activities (since they can't just run and play any longer), and their mandatory summer enrichment programs.

Kids need to be kids: running, playing, enjoying God's creation. They need to learn how to be their own person, do things on their own and make decisions that keep them safe and sound. That requires them to test these waters in what used to be the safety of their own neighborhoods, their own backyards. They shouldn't have to worry about whether Mr. X is a sex offender when they are out, or if Mama's going to go to jail for letting them play outside unattended.

The madness must end. Common sense must prevail.

Dr. Robert Royal to speak at the Institute of Catholic Culture

2011-07-25T20:03:00.000-07:00

at examiner.com

The Screwtape Letters, by CS Lewis -- Presented by Dr. Robert Royal for the Institute of Catholic Culture.

Sr. Maeve Nativitas in the news

2011-07-25T04:57:00.001-07:00

At examiner.com

Local woman takes first vows as member of Sisters of Life

Beware invisible rabbits -- a movie night mistake

2011-07-23T19:38:00.000-07:00

When I think of the 1950 movie, Harvey, starring Jimmy Stewart and this 6' 3 1/2" invisible rabbit friend, I wax nostalgic. I remember a movie that made me laugh, a play that we did in High School that I thought was so much fun -- I was on the stage crew. Good memories.

So, as we were browsing the possibilities on Netflix tonight for our ladies night (four girls, 13 and under & mom) movie choice, we hovered over Harvey. I read the description and, as I said, remembered it fondly.

"Let's watch this one girls," I said.

"Really, Mom?" they balked, "This looks boring."

Indignant, I said, "This is the choice!" in my most enthusiastic tone.

Break out the popcorn and some ice cream and start the movie.

Well, I didn't remember that pleasant, soft spoke Elwood P. Dowd, whose best friend is a Pooka, was a glorified drunk. Not to mention the sexual tension between the young doctor and his desperate nurse. Then, there's the part when Veta Louise, Elwood's sister, recounts how she was mistaken for the one who was to be committed to the sanitarium, was stripped by the young attendant and thrown naked into a therapy bath before she was questioned about her sexual urges.

Ahhh -- grab the clicker, quick!

Here's how Netflix describes the movie:

Affable tippler Elwood P. Dowd (James Stewart) lives with his sister, Veta (Josephine Hull), and her bashful daughter. They hate his drinking, but what rankles them more is his faithful companion: a 6-foot-tall invisible rabbit named Harvey. Elwood's embarrassing flight of fancy is foiling Veta's plans to marry off her daughter, so Veta decides to commit Elwood. But when she confesses she's seen Harvey, the doctor institutionalizes Veta instead!

Affable tippler! Sure, he was affable enough, but the whole movie revolves around how he goes on a continual bender, yet manages to remain affable. There's even a line where he conveys how his friend Ed required "conveyance" to get home -- too drunk to make it on his own! Yet, because Elwood is such a pleasant drunk who sees hallucinations, he becomes the hero who makes living outside of the rational a thing to be lauded.

I guess my first clue should have been that Netflix gave it an NR (not rated). I wondered, but thought I knew better.

I laughed at a good portion of the remaining antics, as did the kids. But for that one scene meant for a more mature audience, the rest of the movie was just kind of dopey...to the kids. To mom, after I checked my reaction and realized that I should not make a big deal out of the goof I made, it was a constant critique and reminder that Hollywood is Hollywood, 1950's morality or not. But, that would have been nice to recall before we sat down to watch.

Note to self: "trust, but verify" the ol' memory banks. It could salvage a ladies movie night -- with underage ladies!

Harry Potter Hangover

2011-07-20T20:08:00.000-07:00

Someone get me a drink! I'm about sick to death of hearing about Harry Potter!

Rowling is the root of all evil and her characters are demonic, satanic, flatulent...you name it, they're it, and it isn't good.

Hit me again, please.

Here comes something really shocking. According to Michael O'Brien, author of a Harry Potter is the anti-Christ book:

“In the novels,” says O’Brien, “Harry is called ‘the Chosen One.’ He chooses to rise from the dead. He defeats evil with the instruments and gnostic powers of sorcery, wielding the ultimate instrument with which he saves the world because he has become ‘Master over Death.’ At the climax of the seven-volume Potter epic, having saved the world from evil, the resurrected Harry is treated with reverent awe, various characters pressing forward to touch him, ‘their leader and symbol, their saviour and their guide.’”

Michael, ever hear of allegory?

This sounds like good triumphing over evil, possibly even a supreme good resurrecting and saving those who follow. STOP! Go no further! This evil sounds oddly Christ-like and we would never want anyone (Tolkien, CS Lewis) to create characters that resemble the spiritual. Although the characters in Harry Potter never actually seem transcendent, they do have qualities that are vividly GOOD.

NO! Never! It couldn't be possible -- evil, I say!

Set me up another one, and make it neat!

I can't tell you how many times I have heard, "these books lead children astray" or "did you know the incantations are real?" I was of that camp once...before I read the books. Funny how your opinion changes when you actually have first hand knowledge! Tolkien had wizards, sorcery, creatures born of the mud and muck. Rowling has Harry with a wand, broom and some silly spells. Both authors have created fantasy stories that pit good against evil.

That said, I'd much rather read Tolkien. I think Rowling's writing leaves something to be desired. But, I have to admit, the kids have embraced the character, and so have many adults. Seven movies later and Harry is probably the most popular character from a novel portrayed on screen -- ever -- I mean ever! A multi-million dollar industry has risen up around him -- and none of my friend's children, at least to my knowledge, have stopped attending Mass or joined a cult.

One more on the rocks!

So, criticize, if you must, the review written in the Vatican newspaper praising Harry Potter. But, I would ask you first to take a deep breath, and recall that allegory is a quite useful literary tool. Perhaps there is something more to Harry than meets the eye. Stop following the fury of negative worry warts and read the books for yourself. You may just enjoy Hogwarts more than your realize.

Maybe everyone loves this last film because it's finally over? One can hope!

As for me, my head is pounding -- I've had too much -- of Harry Potter.

Science, science and more science curricula -- Help Requested

2011-07-20T17:33:00.000-07:00

I have done nothing but search for a decent 6th grade Catholic science curricula for weeks now. Either they are way too expensive and more content than I would ever want, or they are little pamphlets or suggested experiments. Is there no happy medium that won't break the bank but offers a comprehensive overview of appropriate materials for a 6th grader?

Do I have to create my own?

Please answer NO to that question because I am just not in the mood to do that at the moment.

Suggestions would be welcomed. Anyone have any thoughts on how I can keep my 6th grader up to speed in Science without needing to take out a student loan to do it?

A new adventure begins

2011-07-19T18:23:00.000-07:00

This past Friday, I started a new adventure . I am officially a homeschooling mom while job sharing and working part-time as the Student Life Coordinator at Catholic Distance University. Soon to come will be course revisions and two classes for which I will be the professor. It's all so exciting!

And with all the excitement comes the transition period. Everything is happening at once. I'm a little overwhelmed, but in a really good way. It's a lesson to me about my tendency to be a perfectionist -- not everything must just so. What must be perfect is my soul; that is something I strive for on a daily basis, often falling flat on my face.

I take comfort in this Bible verse:

So humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time. Cast all your worries upon him because he cares for you. (1 Peter 5:7)

God doesn't care about the neat and tidy stacks of books, the planners that are all filled out, the email system that I have yet to learn, the daily chores that may have to wait a moment -- No, He doesn't care about that nearly as much as He cares about me. He wants me to first succeed at being His child. God wants me to place everything at His feet and allow Him to guide me on the path.

One thing at a time -- with His help -- that's how this exciting adventure is going to proceed. My dining room table may look like a library shelf just fell over on it. My email in box may be stuffed with unanswered mail. My floors may not be clean enough to eat off of. But, my family is happy and my heart is finally ready to relinquish control and accept the peace that can be a fruit of change.

It's all good, my friends, and it's all happening right now, right here and to me. Wow, I am blessed. The Lord will keep me strong in my resolve to serve Him in the many works He has laid before me. He will lift up my husband as he assists me in formulating a routine. I know the Lord will do these things. All I want to do is use these marvelous new avenues as a witness to His glory!

He will never leave you; He is always your strength. If there are new avenues, many of them even, that have you scrambling. STOP! PRAY! TRUST! God's grace is sufficient. Believe it.

Dr. Warren Carroll, Catholic Historian dies at age 79

2011-07-18T13:32:00.000-07:00

Mourning the passing of renowned Catholic historian, Dr. Warren Carroll

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Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord; and may perpetual light shine upon him.

To participate in a miracle: new hope for preemies

2011-07-16T22:12:00.000-07:00

Thirty years ago, a beautiful baby was born into our family. She was extremely premature, only 26 wks. gestation. She was born in a very remote town that happened to have one of the newest NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) facilities in the country. (What are the odds?) She weighed 1 lb. 1 oz. at her birth.

I remember the phone call to my parents. The worry and the prayers. The trip to the little town in the middle of nowhere. The months of waiting and hoping, watching and marveling over the new procedures. The efforts of the medical staff to keep my niece alive, to help her to have a future. The chance to witness the science God had inspired to allow babies every chance to know life -- to participate in a miracle.

A 14 July story in the National Catholic Register featured the story of a 21 wk. preemie born in Germany, weighing 1 lb. 1 oz. Little Frieda is a miracle, too. The difference between this story and my niece's is one of gestational age. According to Pam Caylor, former executive director of First Choice Pregnancy Services in Las Vegas, NV:

“In the United States, that pretty much doesn’t happen before 22 weeks, no matter if the parents want the babies. You pretty much can’t force them (the doctors) to do it. That kind of became the medical standard across the U.S.”

At 21+ wks., doctors in Germany decided that Frieda's life had value, that she deserved a chance to fight for her life. Whether they realized it or not, they allowed God's grace to operate. They believed there was a chance, even though statistically the prognosis was poor.

The chances of survival are greatly diminished the younger the gestational age of the baby. It stands to reason, the longer the baby is in the womb the better the chances of delivering a healthy child. That places the physicians in a difficult spot ethically -- to treat or not to treat with such a poor chance of survival. After all, the medical costs alone are staggering -- Neonatal Intensive Care specialists and a hospital stay that lasts for months -- not to mention the toll it can take emotionally. But, what price can one put on the potential of the human spirit, the will to survive and the grace of God?

Perhaps Frieda's story will universally inspire doctors. Five weeks meant a future for my niece thirty years ago. Would they have fought as hard if she had been younger? I hope so, because she's an amazing woman, and because every baby has dignity and deserves a chance to thrive.

Children's Choir: Singing songs of worship at the Basilica

2011-07-14T08:19:00.000-07:00

Four choristers from my family have been practicing for the past couple of weeks especially for tonight. All four of my girls sing with the children's choir at Church -- three out of four of them cantor at the "family/children's" Mass at our parish.

This Mass tonight (actually two Masses) is quite special; my girls will be singing with their choir for the televised Mass for Shut-ins at the Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception.

To say they are excited is an understatement. It's not just about being on TV -- which for most children would be thrilling enough. But, to sing at the National Shrine, during the Mass to help others who cannot leave their homes to worship in person -- well, that's almost as wonderful as it gets, at least for my kids.

As they head to Washington, DC tonight to sing, praying twice as do. please remember the girls and their entire choir in your prayers. Rest assured we will be offering prayers for all of you, as well.

Send me a whisper

2011-07-12T09:34:00.000-07:00

Often the answers we seek aren't clear. We pray and hope, and sometimes we worry over what we are about to do. We look for the big signs, the affirmation or the trepidation that precedes making a decision. We might even say to God, "Lord send me a sign, something that will help me know for sure that I am walking the right path -- send me something BIG, so I will know for certain."

The Lord spoke to Elijah the prophet this way:

Then the LORD said, "Go outside and stand on the mountain before the LORD; the LORD will be passing by." A strong and heavy wind was rending the mountains and crushing rocks before the LORD--but the LORD was not in the wind.

After the wind there was an earthquake--but the LORD was not in the earthquake.

After the earthquake there was fire--but the LORD was not in the fire.

After the fire there was a tiny whispering sound.

When he heard this, Elijah hid his face in his cloak and went and stood at the entrance of the cave. A voice said to him, "Elijah, why are you here?" (1 Kings 19: 11-13 emphasis added)

Remember those teachers in grade school, the ones who would whisper to get the attention of the class? They were firm, yet mild; they caught our attention with a whisper. We began to anticipate their whisper. This is how the Lord works with us, too. And it requires us to listen -- a virtue in this busy world that many of us find difficult. It's hard to hear past the chaos; it's easy to become desensitized to the noise. Ultimately, we will hear only that noise, and drown out the still small voice of God, even though we are earnestly trying to pray.

Bring yourself back into presence of the Lord. Stop what you are doing, turn down the noise that fills your ears and mind. Settle your soul in the warmth of His light: Adore with all your heart; offer sincere contrition; thank Him for all the good things He has done; place your petitions before Him with trust and ask Him to send you a whisper.

Then, listen -- listen very carefully and do as God suggests: "Be still and know that I Am God." (Ps 46: 11)

Don't despair, prepare

2011-07-11T05:26:00.000-07:00

Emotions can be mysterious things, especially for wives & mothers. Temperaments change with the calendar and the clock. Overtired we are a different person than well rested; hormonal, the same. Trying to find solid emotional ground when the conditions are like quicksand is tricky. Each of us knows it, too.

Proverbs 23:12 reminds each of us to "apply your heart to instruction, and your ears to words of knowledge." God asks us to KNOW, love and serve Him; He is knowable and He is the exemplar of how we are to live. In other words, it is important to understand not only what and who is around you, but yourself as well. Everything is knowable to some extent, and knowing yourself is important.

Triggers such as sleep and hormonal cycles influence behavior. If mood swings or flairs of temper are worse when you are tired and hormonal, take note of it. There are things that can be done to help alleviate the strain of these moments (if these flair ups are recurrent and severe, you should seek medical attention).

3 Simple Steps:

1. Pray -- Always put your joys and challenges before the Lord. His grace is essential to dealing with any circumstance. And when you are feeling a little less able to cope than usual, He will carry you through. Nothing fancy. Just a simple prayer to ask for peace, guidance or perspective. He wants us to be happy with Him; He will not let us fall if we ask for and respond to His grace.

2. Say Something -- Let people know that you are stressed before they are hit with it. They will do one of two things: a) want to help you, or b) run for the hills. Either way, people have fair warning that your mood is not ideal and that they need to take that into account when interacting with you.

3. Rest & Rejuvinate -- Easier said than done in most cases, but critical nonetheless. For a wife and mother, there is never a perfectly opportune time to stop everything. But, taking care of yourself is part of the key to limiting the occurrence of episodes that cause fatigue, depression, mood swings, temper flairs, etc. Becoming overwhelmed is always a trigger for these types of temperamental shifts. A simple nap or a moment listening to relaxing music in a quiet environment can break the tension and restore peace.

Take the time to understand how you work, who you are as God created you. Then, make sure that you are caring for this wonderful creation both spiritually and physically. Don't despair, prepare. Know yourself and you will come to see the Creator in His creation. The indwelling Spirit lives within you -- understanding who you are helps you to keep the conditions perfect for God to remain at home in your heart.

With much love, Mom

2011-07-10T05:46:00.000-07:00

Dear Family,

Pancakes and bacon.

It's Sunday morning, and that's what everyone will expect to see on the table.

But, Eddie slept about 2.5 hrs. last night after returning from our overnight junket to Pennsylvania to celebrate Laura's graduation. And the week ahead is jam packed before we make our next overnight to New York on Friday.

I'm toast...which is about all I am really up for making this lovely Sunday morning.

So, dear family -- this note is for you if you happen to read it.

I will make you pancakes and bacon -- because I love you. And out of deepest love & affection, respect and concern for the psychological and physical well being of your mother, after we attend Mass this morning, you might try to:

Offer a little prayer for me
Let me nap
Use your indoor voices
Find your own methods of transportation to friends, pool and library
Clean up around the house
Keep your Grandmother entertained and happy
Prepare your lunches for tomorrows camps and activities

And...

Make your mother dinner

These things are not difficult. But, they will make me extraordinarily proud and pleased.

Generosity is virtue that flows from love -- it comes without having to ask.

So, I am not asking, not telling, just suggesting some simple ways in which this day might go more smoothly for all of us. But, most especially for you, dear family, because mom is on the tired side of cranky and may harbor a growl or two for anyone who looks at me sideways.

With Much Love,

Mom

**Anyone who needs to borrow this note and adapt it to their own circumstances is free to do so... :)

UPDATE:

No Milk -- No Pancake mix -- So, I improvised and made my own pancake batter from scratch and used powdered milk, which I happened to have in the cabinet. They came out quite yummy...No picture, unfortunately -- they were devoured before I could even find my camera!

John Corapi, brussel sprouts and bacon don't mix

2011-07-05T17:45:00.000-07:00

It seemed like the perfect combination -- to me. Everyone else had to wonder about my decision to mix brussel sprouts -- a not so favorite veggie -- with bacon -- a much beloved and coveted meat product. The blending of flavors, I thought, would be a match made in heaven, add a little garlic and voila, perfection!

My family had a different reaction. There was no amount of bacon and garlic that could make a brussel sprout taste better. And in that reaction, I saw a connection to recent events in Catholic culture.

Everyone who follows Catholic news outlets and blogs knows about the Black SheepDog and his bizarre escapades. John Corapi in reacting, or over-reacting, to an allegation of sexual abuse, drug use and other scandalous behaviors on his new blog, is calling more and more negative attention to himself on a daily basis.

In his last post of 30 June, John Corapi rages against the seeming injustice of his circumstances and those he believes to be the perpetrators of his current situation:

In twenty years of preaching and teaching in the Catholic Church I ran into many who should know better that did not believe that wolves existed and that there was no need for sheepdogs. They scoffed at the idea of either. They are not leaders, they are delusional oxygen thieves—taking up the space and breathing the air that a real leader should occupy fill. [sic]
There is evil in the world; there is evil in society, in politics, in all of the places where men are to be found.
There are sheep, there are wolves, and there are sheepdogs. It is an undeniable fact. This Independence Day thank God for the freedom we have, but remember that it wasn’t and isn’t free. Be watchful that your country, your state, your church, and your friends and family don’t get eaten by wolves—who very often come clothed as sheep.

Today, in an apparent response to these continuous rants, SOLT (Society of Our Lady of the Most Holy Trinity) issued a statement making quite clear that they had sufficient information to place Fr. John Corapi on administrative leave. The statement read:

SOLT's fact-finding team has acquired information from Fr. Corapi's e-mails, various witnesses, and public sources that, together, state that, during his years of public ministry:

He did have sexual relations and years of cohabitation (in California and Montana) with a woman known to him, when the relationship began, as a prostitute; He repeatedly abused alcohol and drugs; He has recently engaged in sexting activity with one or more women in Montana; He holds legal title to over $1 million in real estate, numerous luxury vehicles, motorcycles, an ATV, a boat dock, and several motor boats, which is a serious violation of his promise of poverty as a perpetually professed member of the Society.

But, it doesn't stop there. This statement makes an appeal, one that should give pause to everyone who loves both faith and reason. Christ said "love your enemy, do good to those who hate you." (Lk 6:27-28) Understanding this to be an ideal to which all priests should aspire, the question arises as to which party is best living up to this standard of forgiveness? It isn't difficult to answer.

Corapi continues to lash out, making not only his situation, but that of other brother priests more tenuous. His SOLT community is taking the higher road, the approach that is called for under the circumstances and probably more difficult for secular culture to understand. Instead of leaving its statement pointing out only the allegations, SOLT open its hearts and calls its brother home, ordering him to live obedient to his promises.

SOLT has contemporaneously with the issuance of this press release directed Fr. John Corapi, under obedience, to return home to the Society’s regional office and take up residence there. It has also ordered him, again under obedience, to dismiss the lawsuit he has filed against his accuser.

This may sound harsh to some, but it is truly loving fraternal correction from a Society of Apostolic Life of Diocesan Right that sees one of their own suffering. They will not allow Fr. Corapi to be eaten by the wolves of his disobedience when the only SheepDog he is relying on at the moment is himself.

John Corapi can't sugarcoat the truth with angry rhetoric. Nothing he is currently doing will lessen the impact this is having on the hearts of those who want to believe him. He can't hide the brussel sprouts in this recipe for disaster, and everyone can taste them.

I'm Not Good at Making Pie Crust

2011-07-04T20:06:00.000-07:00

There are weekends for chores and weekends for fun. This happened to be a weekend that combined both.

There were basement closet doors to fix and a new color to paint under the dining room chair rail. And there was the cook out on Friday night, the wedding on Saturday and, of course, the 4th of July to consider.

It almost seemed like too much work and too much fun to manage in one long weekend. But, being the maniacs that we are, we made it a point to make it all happen. An happen it did -- with only a few minor glitches. For instance, after we left for the wedding, I realized that my camera wasn't in its case. So, the beautiful images of my friend's daughter being married will have to live in my memory.

So other than a few minor issues, it was frankly a pretty amazing weekend. And feeling pretty successful, I posted my status updates on FaceBook, sometimes with pictures (not of the wedding, of course). There were encouraging comments and some inviting me to come and cook and do some home repairs.

But, one comment caught my attention. A dear friend asked: "Is there anything you can't do?"

I thought about it for a while, and came up with this response: "I'm not really good at making pie crust."

I guess I could be though, if I tried. I love to try new things -- and I am especially aware of the gifts God has given me. He has allowed me to be good at many things as a result of His grace. My dad used to think of that ability to do lots of things as a Jack of all trades and a master of none. Of course, he meant that someone would do a million things and be successful at none. I have some modicum of success with much of what I endeavor to do. So I guess I don't fit dad's profile -- thankfully.

It's a marvelous thing to explore and experience God's creation by trying new things -- as long as it doesn't compromise sanctity, life and livelihood. And so as not to alienate your friends and neighbors, pride also needs to be kept in check (sometimes hard to do on FB). Like a good Father, God provides the wisdom necessary to manage these concerns.

In Romans, one of my favorite books in the Bible, Paul is very pragmatic about how we need to treat one another as children of God. I guess this was the best approach to get through to those noble and pagan Romans; it certainly works for me. This verse seems to sum up the flurry of a weekend that we enjoyed, and supply an answer the question I was asked (it also happened to be a reading at the wedding we attended).

Love one another with mutual affection; anticipate one another in showing honor. Do not grow slack in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, endure in affliction, persevere in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the holy ones, exercise hospitality. Bless those who persecute (you), bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Have the same regard for one another; do not be haughty but associate with the lowly; do not be wise in your own estimation. Do not repay anyone evil for evil; be concerned for what is noble in the sight of all. If possible, on your part, live at peace with all. (Rom 12:10-18)

It's a blessing to have friends that can support you and appreciate the many things you can do. And I certainly hope no one thought I was gloating. I just find great joy in the gifts with which God has blessed me. I'm also grateful for the many wondrous gifts He has bestowed on all my friends and neighbors. When you share your talents with me, I rejoice and give glory to God who is present in all of you.

Life is short and time is fleeting. We need to use our gifts and talents wisely for the greater glory of God. It is special to me to share my gifts with others.

Now, I intend to learn how to make a superior pie crust! I'm sure I'll post pictures when and if I do.

Happy Fourth of July

2011-07-03T20:24:00.000-07:00

Let Freedom Ring

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Happy July 4th!!!

Decsions, decisions: don't sacrifice your peace

2011-07-02T21:09:00.000-07:00

I've been away for a couple of days. There have been things to think about -- things that keep you up at night. These things upset the balance of life, and steal a person's peace. Sometimes they are even good things. Imagine losing sleep over having to decide among good things. But, that's exactly what I've been doing.

My troubles stem from too much of a good thing -- recently lots of opportunities have come my way. And, some things can stay, but others have to go. The answers don't always show themselves clearly, and that 's when worry creeps in and mixes things up. How exactly does one decide amongst goods; how does one decide which good must go and which good can stay?

There's no sin involved in the choice. In other words, I don't have to worry whether what I am about to enter into puts my soul at risk. But it could become sinful if I don't pare things back.

Not being willing to sacrifice my peace, I spent some time putting things into perspective (at 2am). And I made a decision to give up something that I truly love to do. Several factors came into play -- some that assisted in making the decision, others that muddled the works.

Here's how I worked it out:

1. Pray -- I put my petition before the Lord through the intercession of Our Lady. This came as the result of a million things converging in my brain at midnight. It's not always easy to remember to pray when things happen at strange times or in under unusual circumstances. But, its always a good thing to help soothe the soul and remind you that you are not alone in your anxiousness.

2. Next, I assessed my options based on the following (the list is not all inclusive):

a. Which opportunity would help me to increase my relationship with God?

b. Which opportunity would allow me to live my vocation as wife and mother fully?

c. How would each opportunity benefit my marriage, family, neighbors and me?

d. How would each opportunity negatively impact those same people?

e. Is there any spiritual or temporal reason to avoid any of the opportunities?

f. Would I be going against any prior agreements to decide against an opportunity?

3. Then, I made a decision by considering all the answers to the questions I asked myself. And, while it was a difficult decision to come to, I know that in the presence of God, I worked through the pros and cons based on the most important factors.

Not all decisions can be made using this three part system. Almost always, I consult my husband, but on this one I knew he would agree because it had an impact on his life if I were to continue; leaving the situation would make his life a little easier. I didn't feel that I was at risk of going against his better judgment.

It's good to have at least one thing (out of several that need to be reevaluated) off my plate. Sometimes God stops you where you are -- or keeps you from your sleep -- to help you see that peace is at risk and something must be done. Listen, pray, act and move forward in His will. Don't let worry and fear paralyze you and steal your peace. Hope in God and use the gifts He has given you to make things work.

New Roman Missal Translation -- Time to Prepare

2011-06-28T14:07:00.000-07:00

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Our Anniversary -- 24 Years to Remember

2011-06-27T18:00:00.000-07:00

I said, "I do" to a very special man 24 years ago today.

And he said, "I do" to me, too.

These vows were made in the presence of God and our family and friends in the Holy Catholic Church.

Did we recognize the value of making those vows in the Church back then?

Not really -- and that made the first couple of years of marriage more challenging probably than they should have been. But, we were learning and responding the entire time.

It was Lyle who made the effort to be a strong Catholic at first. And after we had kids, both of us began to recognize the need for a faith life that was more than just obligatory.

It's been 24 years on this journey with my best friend. And just as we started we continue, with Lyle leading the way, encouraging and supporting. He is the voice of reason, the man with the story, the husband that every woman would hope for -- a steady port in the storm, always faithful and secure.

Thank You, Lord for choosing him for me. I am blessed.

Happy Anniversary, Darlin'! Here's to many, many more!

Faith on the High Wire Redesign

2011-06-27T12:01:00.000-07:00

Tell me what you think.

Is there anything else you'd like to see; something you'd like me to remove?

Talk to me...

And, as always, thanks for reading and please recommend the blog to others.

Blessings,

Kathy