Monday, July 11, 2011

Don't despair, prepare

Emotions can be mysterious things, especially for wives & mothers. Temperaments change with the calendar and the clock. Overtired we are a different person than well rested; hormonal, the same. Trying to find solid emotional ground when the conditions are like quicksand is tricky. Each of us knows it, too.

Proverbs 23:12 reminds each of us to "apply your heart to instruction, and your ears to words of knowledge." God asks us to KNOW, love and serve Him; He is knowable and He is the exemplar of how we are to live. In other words, it is important to understand not only what and who is around you, but yourself as well. Everything is knowable to some extent, and knowing yourself is important.

Triggers such as sleep and hormonal cycles influence behavior. If mood swings or flairs of temper are worse when you are tired and hormonal, take note of it. There are things that can be done to help alleviate the strain of these moments (if these flair ups are recurrent and severe, you should seek medical attention).

3 Simple Steps:

1. Pray -- Always put your joys and challenges before the Lord. His grace is essential to dealing with any circumstance. And when you are feeling a little less able to cope than usual, He will carry you through. Nothing fancy. Just a simple prayer to ask for peace, guidance or perspective. He wants us to be happy with Him; He will not let us fall if we ask for and respond to His grace.

2. Say Something -- Let people know that you are stressed before they are hit with it. They will do one of two things: a) want to help you, or b) run for the hills. Either way, people have fair warning that your mood is not ideal and that they need to take that into account when interacting with you.

3. Rest & Rejuvinate -- Easier said than done in most cases, but critical nonetheless. For a wife and mother, there is never a perfectly opportune time to stop everything. But, taking care of yourself is part of the key to limiting the occurrence of episodes that cause fatigue, depression, mood swings, temper flairs, etc. Becoming overwhelmed is always a trigger for these types of temperamental shifts. A simple nap or a moment listening to relaxing music in a quiet environment can break the tension and restore peace.

Take the time to understand how you work, who you are as God created you. Then, make sure that you are caring for this wonderful creation both spiritually and physically. Don't despair, prepare. Know yourself and you will come to see the Creator in His creation. The indwelling Spirit lives within you -- understanding who you are helps you to keep the conditions perfect for God to remain at home in your heart.

1 comment:

Cherie said...

Amen. I can totally relate, thanks for the tips.