Tuesday, July 28, 2015

For BSA it's officially openly SSA -- How will the Church respond?

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A little over two years ago I wrote this about the Boy Scouts of America and their decision to allow young boys who professed to be same sex attracted (SSA) to enter their ranks openly. Yesterday it was announced that BSA has decided to allow openly homosexual leaders to join their ranks. 

Families take note (especially of the pictured Boy Scouts for Equality who marched in this parade fraught with debauchery and licentiousness), here is what your boys may be presented with as leaders.

I wonder how they will reconcile this with the "morally straight" declaration in the oath (accessed 7/28/2015 on the BSA website).

And, what will the Church decide to do about all their charters? I have a feeling I know what the Diocese of Arlington, VA will do based on our bishop's past comments.

Now, we pray and wait for the USCCB to respond. As of this morning, there is nothing on the USCCB site.


Monday, July 27, 2015

"Untamed Temperaments": O How Can I Change Thee?

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I'm a strong extrovert with mild melancholic tendencies. I only fall into melancholic tendencies when the exertions of being a Choleric-Sanguine push me past my limits.

Can anyone relate to this? 

Does it seem a little bipolar*?

My highs can be very high, but my lows are never so severe as to warrant intervention. They are just exhausting and require rest and rejuvenation.

The Temperaments chart above delineates a person's behavioral tendencies. People's behavior can be differentiated into four distinct categories of temperament: Choleric, Sanguine, Phlegmatic and Melancholic. Each temperament has particular behavioral traits associated with it.

As I noted at the start, my primary temperament is Choleric -- you can all feel sorry for my husband and children now. I have tried over the years to rid myself of many of the choleric tendencies in my behaviors. Each time I would try, I would get angry and frustrated. I'd behave, in essence, more and more like a choleric!


Often, I would grouse, "Can it even be done? Can I possibly be rid of these nasty tendencies that drive me and others crazy?"

It certainly seemed impossible. I was praying, of course -- a bitter, tantrum-like prayer. Not so surprisingly, I wasn't making much progress (actually, no progress). It became necessary to ask myself if I was praying for the right thing?

I wanted those particular temperaments to go away and be gone for good. I didn't want to be responsible for them anymore.

I thought I would be better if I was different. Wouldn't it be great if I could be a Sanguine/Phlegmatic? That's a wonderful combination -- as if I could simply put on a new temperament as easily a I could change my clothes.

I realized that I was asking God to change the essence of me -- "who" he made me to be.

That couldn't be right.

What was I supposed to do with that nasty choleric list then? How would I be able to go on being that?

St. Augustine came to mind one afternoon as I brooded over my situation (he and I share some temperament traits). He's an inspiring saint, and offered many wonderful words to ponder. I found part of the answer I needed in this less commonly quoted phrase spoken by the dear saint:

Complete abstinence is easier than perfect moderation.

This wasn't really a new concept to me. It had been recommended to me previously as a means of penance for Lent; I should try to cut down on something I found pleasant and stick to it, rather than abstain from it entirely. My confessor hadn't attributed the idea to St. Augustine. And I had never really applied it to anything besides my Lenten penances.

Imagine my delight when I recognized that it was a more universally applicable notion. It was an epiphany!

I didn't need to change temperaments! I needed to "temper" my temperaments, make them holy and gradually move to a more moderate expression of them.  I began to ask God to show me how to perfect my primary temperament.

I quickly came to this realization: I couldn't undo my temperaments, I couldn't "un-be" who I was. I would be destroying the fabric of who I am, and possibly undermining the purpose of what I was meant for in this life.  I needed to look at each of the attributes of the choleric temperament and find a way to make them virtuous. (I honestly believe that without the tenacity that comes along with being a choleric, I would have buckled under the strain of some of life's circumstances.)

For instance, aggression -- It doesn't sound like an attribute that anyone would aspire to. I didn't want to lose my edge, though -- I liked that don't tangle with the tiger part of me. So, what was I to do? I attempted with God's grace to refine its expression. I no longer felt compelled to make minced meat out of those who got under my skin. Instead, when I used that tendency to defend and protect, I'd start with a prayer and operate with love and with mercy; even if anger was necessary, it wouldn't be released in a negative form of aggression -- it now looks more determined and self-assured.

This choleric temperament is a gift, not a curse. And I have a responsibility to use it wisely.

Lately, it has become exceedingly commonplace to expect the world to conform to our whims. Accept me for how I am -- You -- accept Me -- whether my behavior deserves acceptance or not. There is very little, if any, personal responsibility for being good, or moral, or truthful. Concerning? Absolutely!

It unnerves me to consider: What if I had continued down the path of the "untamed choleric"? I'd have been miserable, angry, defiant, rebellious, etc. In actuality, I have already been those things (through my teens and early 20's -- I'll let you imagine that for yourselves). I know for certain that if it had continued unchecked, no one with any real joy would want to be around me; that would have been a great sadness to me because I truly love to be social (my Sanguine side) and yearned to be truly and consistently happy.

It would have been pointless, fruitless, and ultimately a detriment to me to expect others to accept the "untamed choleric". I would have been asking to remain in my misery -- a repellent to anything good, true and beautiful. I would have been surrounded my people of like temperament.

Sadly, I do notice many of them, they're hard to miss -- angry, depressed, leading others astray, good natured, but easily swayed -- and mostly miserable because they are trapped in their "untamed temperament". 

Beyond any doubt, I came to realize that the only way to be happy was to take responsibility for my behaviors that left me feeling angry and unhappy. God and I were finally on the same team in this regard; I wanted to perfect my temperament, and He wanted it for me all along.

I am grateful for my little epiphany. It helped me make a positive behavioral revision in my life (one that requires continuous attention). It allowed me to be strong and confident, with more obvious Sanguine undertones. I became more pleasant, and for that I'm sure many people are grateful.

Moderation.

That and prayer have helped me turn a corner to perfect and put to good use my choleric temperament. I now gratefully take what the Lord has given and employ it with his grace each day. Each day, I start anew to keep what is best, cast off what causes pain, anxiety, unrest.

It's been a life changer, a change that this Choleric/Sanguine can live happily with -- and so can everyone else around me.

For more information about the temperaments, I recommend: The Temperament God Gave You, by Art and Laraine Bennett.


*Bipolar disorder is real and requires medical intervention. The strains of daily life and the inability to control mood swings as a result of chemical imbalances in the brain must be addressed, of course. But, here I am speaking of behavioral tendencies more so than psychological diagnoses. 



Friday, July 17, 2015

Sexual Sins and Fraternal Correction -- Did St. Paul Really Suggest We Ignore Society?

I feel like we should all take a time machine back to the 70's where people were too confused (among other things) to teach the truth. We should sit down and make God's eyes and sing kumbaya. This desire comes after reading an article by a Catholic author in the Christian emagazine, Relevant. The article claims that Christians are not the appointed morality police of those outside the Church, and uses proof texting of Scripture, forgets that disciples are sometimes called to rebuke the sinner, and wants us all to just get along. Tell that to a martyr! The author begins with a derogatory quote from Gandhi about Christians, and then bases the entire article -- dealing with sexual morality and contending with the sexual sins/sinners that surround us -- around ONE quote from Paul to the Corinthians. ONE QUOTE!

In order to understand what Paul was teaching, you need to understand the context. What was the situation in Corinth? Why did Paul need to rebuke them initially? Was Paul really suggesting that the Church ignore society? Why did he write again? After all, there are two letters to the Church in Corinth, not just one quote. Two full letters of teaching, and correcting. It's a dangerous thing to pick a quote and think you know to who and about what Paul was teaching.

Back to the point. Yes, we are called to enlighten the culture to the truth of the Gospel! And sometimes, the message does need an edge -- think Jesus in the temple courtyard and when He casts out demons, and even the statements to eat true flesh and drink true blood or have no life within you from the Sermon on the Mount. Fraternal correction -- especially about sexual  morality -- isn't always comfortable. And I just can't stomach being corrected so politely and inaccurately with information taken out of context and and argument built upon personal opinion. (Oh, how I despise proof texting!)

Defending the truth -- sharing the Gospel -- doesn't have to be a nasty ordeal, but it does have to remind the sinner to go and sin no more!

Most often, that sinner is us! And I know what I would do if I tried to convince myself to just be a good example instead of mortifying the body and rebuking the intellect that would continue to sin on the inside, but try to be a loving example on the outside. Read 2 Tim 1 and see how Paul in prison counsels Timothy on the preaching of the Gospel; and, as I mentioned above, what does Paul actually say in 1 Corinthians, and then in 2 Corinthians?


My advice to the author:

Knowing who to correct and how to correct in a way that will be heard and understood is a grace. Know your audience -- that's what Jesus did by dining with sinners -- and recognize that the audience in most cases is YOU -- so, start by pulling that plank in your own eye, pray and ask God the best way to reach those in society to whom we are called to evangelize. It begins with self-knowledge and self discipline to better know how to love and serve God and neighbor. Our neighbor doesn't exist only inside the Church!

Let's start here:

"O Eternal Father, I accuse myself before You, in order that You may punish me for my sins in this finite life, and, inasmuch as my sins are the cause of the sufferings which my neighbor must endure, I implore You, in Your kindness, to punish them in my person." (from the Dialogue of St. Catherine of Siena)

Monday, July 6, 2015

Same Sex Marriage, Love Thy Neighbor, and Rodney King

Rodney King. Remember him? May God rest his soul, he died a few years back -- his story, that sparked riots in CA after his beating by police, echos in the stories we have recently grappled with concerning police brutality vs. necessary force.

But, that's not what I want to focus on here, although there is much to be said regarding that, as well.

Mr. King may be best remembered for his quote: "Can we all get along?"

It was a simple phrase -- and one that very few have considered attempting, even remotely, since its utterance.

Why?

Simple.

We can't all get along. If we could, there wouldn't be strife in the world, terrorism, hunger, racial tensions, abortion,  same-sex marriage legalization, etc.

No, we can't all get along. Not under our own power.

Christ never said this life would be easy. He emphasized the narrow gate that led to heaven (cf. Mt. 7:13, and that persecution was to be expected (cf. Mt 5:11; Mk 13:13; Jn 15:19; Lk 6:22) if we were to follow him.

Here's where the "get along" statement becomes even more problematic for a Christian. We are to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us -- it's paradoxical.

As we are confronted with issues, situations, laws that assault our Christian sensibilities (notice I didn't say offend -- which would make it merely sentimental), we are to become more humble, more loving, more charitable, more gracious, more, etc. -- you get the picture.

What are we to do?

Our outcry is first to the Lord to protect us in this battle against the world of darkness that is ever more encroaching on our freedom to do what we ought, not what we want. Then, we must reach out --- gently, peacefully -- to our hierarchy and beg them to teach the truth with courage and perseverance, reminding them that we are praying and will support them with our very lives. How can they be courageous if they don't believe that God has provided them an army of angels and men to fill them with fortitude?

Then, we need to practice what has been preached to us. What a joy it was this past Sunday to hear our priest be so loving, yet unapologetic in his defense of marriage and family.

He wasn't being a bigot or a hater.

On the contrary, he was being a lover of God, a lover of his fellow man, and was upholding the directive to do both (cf. Mt 22: 35-40). And, we are called to do the same.

Granted, it would be easier if the Gay Pride Parades were not filled with pornographic, lewd and crude representations of sex (didn't look too much like marriage to me). It would be easier to love that particular neighbor if what was witnessed was representative of loving same sex couples with a desire to try and live out what marriage looks like to them (yes, I am saying they don't understand what "true marriage" is).

And believe me, the decline in fruitful and faithful heterosexual marriage hasn't made it easy to defend the sanctity of marriage either. People will note that the divorce rate is declining, which on the surface would appear to be a good thing. The problem is that this "marriage" that everyone wants is also in decline -- people aren't getting married at the same rate as they once were. (And, to be completely cynical here, divorce attorneys are probably champing at the bit for what will likely be an increase in their revenue as same sex couples marry and divorce.)

Ultimately, Jesus never promised us that being his disciple would be easy (cf. Lk 9:23; Mk 10:38), and he never said that we would all get along (cf. Mt. 10:21; Lk 12:53). We are going to be judged, separated and placed where our lives have led us -- in eternal glory or eternal damnation (cf. Mt. 25:31-33; Lk 10:16; Mt. 12: 37).

It is our objective, then, to live lives that glorify God and keep his commandments ( cf. Jn 10:27; Jn 15:14). We must love our neighbor and try to help him see that it is in love that we reject his behavior, not his dignity as a human person. And, utmost in our minds and hearts should be to preserve God from this further indignity to his glory.

"Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ", St. Paul tells the Corinthians in 1 Cor 11 -- that's a tall order, but a necessary one. Jesus loved the sinner, with the directive to go and sin no more; with the authority and gentle presence to have the crowd, ready and willing to inflict harm, shamefully disperse and drift away inflicting no harm whatsoever (cf. Jn 8:11).

That is how to proceed -- be imitators of Christ.


Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Feast of St. Agnes of Assisi

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I haven't written in this space for a while. Life takes it turns and has its season as they say -- it has neither been my turn nor my season to use this place for writing my thoughts recently.

Today, however, is the Feast of St. Agnes of Assisi, and this brings to mind a dear friend whose mom's name was Agnes. To hear her speak of her mom and the trials she endured toward the end of her life reminds me so much of her patroness; she lived her example well.

My friend's mom had a neurological degenerative disorder like Parkinson's Disease. It left her sound in mind, but limited in ability to control her body and function independently -- eventually it left her bedridden. But, as my friend describes Agnes, you get a sense that she was deeply faithful, incredibly strong, and understood that God's mercy sends the grace of resilience.

St. Agnes did not give up easily either. She followed her sister, St. Clare, into the monastery against her family's wishes. They tried to remove her forcibly without success. God provided supernatural assistance to make her too heavy to carry and temporarily paralyzed an uncle who also attempted to remove her. Agnes would do God's will alone.

And so it was with my friend's mom; debilitated or not, she would stubbornly cling to what she knew to be true -- her faith and her free will. She would do what she could for as long as she could with a tenacity that can only be derived supernaturally. She did indeed imitate this dear saint.

Today, I reflect on this as Western culture struggles with end of life issues; the value and dignity of life in it's last stages. St. Agnes -- who was responsible for establishing many convents that bore the name of her sister, St. Clare, and was saddened by being separated from her sister for so long in this world -- suffered bravely and carried out her mission. She respected the will of God and followed it courageously even denying her own happiness and independence.

In the end, St. Agnes was recalled to San Damiano where her sister Clare was dying. She witnessed the passing of her sister into eternity. St.Agnes didn't wish to hasten death, she knew that a holy death (one that, in that time, didn't come with palliative care) would only bring her sister further reward in heaven, and add to the numbers who make up the Church Triumphant. A mere three months after Clare's death, Agnes followed her into eternity to be separated no longer.

St. Agnes embraced the sufferings of a family that didn't wish her to enter the convent, the separation from her beloved sister, the trials of establishing religious orders, and eventually witnessing the death of her sister. Her resilience and fortitude are symbolic of her love of Jesus, and her deep and abiding understanding of the value of sacrifice and redemptive suffering.

These virtues are what I hear each time my friend speaks about the life and holy death of her mom, Agnes; how the struggle to remain alive until it was her time to be called home changed hearts and brought peace and comfort. Her life -- to the very end -- reminds those who knew her (and those like me, who didn't) of her spirit, and the stories resound with joy and laughter of Agnes' insistence that she had more to do here even under the worst of physical and medical circumstances.

We shouldn't give up so easily on life. We should follow the holy examples of St. Agnes -- and, hopefully, her counterpart in the Church Triumphant, the un-canonized Agnes that is my friend's mom -- and live the life God has given us to its fullest and final day. Our example may be the only hope that some people ever know, the only Jesus Crucified they have ever seen. If we suffer it well, with love of God and neighbor shining through every moment, it will bring souls to Christ. This was the example of both Agnes' -- faithful, even unto death.

Blessed Feast of St. Agnes!

(for my friend, Anne)

Monday, August 11, 2014

Shaped by Who we love


St. Clare said that who we love shapes us.

Some human beings consider themselves to be simply an organism whose shape is predetermined by genetics. When they become human is based on subjective analysis. Perhaps a human being starts when the shape is identifiable, or maybe when the first breath is taken postpartum, or when we can recognize in form and structure a viable life. Or maybe in defective shape, or inconvenient circumstances what is in the womb isn't even human -- at least to some.

This subjective take on the human person makes it easy not to love. It entombs the heart, squashes faith and submits an isolated and emotionally unprepared mind to defective reasoning. And so, when termination of a "fetus" or viability or disability in a "pregnancy" are spoken of, the emotion of love is removed -- the "who" is displaced by the "what". Thus, the heart and mind are moved to fear; and not a holy fear of an uncertain future, but an irrational/self-centered fear that is counseled about the "whatness" -- lifestyle changes that will be difficult if not impossible to manage, that will interfere with the ability to do what you want. It denies and ignores the protection of the "who" (mother, father and child) deserving of love and compassion.

It's a wonder that we have such trouble loving others around us, why we live in a world where inflicting pain has become a past-time, where we can turn a blind eye or even rationalize barbaric behaviors that exist in our midst. True, we may be horrified by events, but do we see the "who" -- do we love the "who" -- are we shaped by the "who" in those circumstances?

For instance, the genocide of Christians in Iraq is a martyrdom that has caused many a good soul outside the region to suffer as they witness the atrocities via the Internet. A collective Western gasp of horror over the events is audibly heard. Yet, very little is being done by any nation, to include our own anemic air strikes (perhaps for fear of another terrorist attack on our own soil). Did we simply need to look as if we've made some effort; to do something to alleviate some deep, nagging, yet inexplicable guilt in our conscience that has lost its meaning through years of neglect? Does it help us to suggest that we took care of the "what" in the situation? -- we calmed the fighting; we slowed the progression; we protected the region...

Did we love the people? Are we willing to make sacrifices to save the lives? Were our actions shaped by the "who"?

We can witness these crimes against humanity, be sickened by them in the moment and yet, because they are not happening here in our midst, we somehow feel immune to their effects because it is a "what" and not a "who" with which we are dealing. We insulate our emotions and move forward as if it doesn't have any impact on our lives. But it does, and it will have lasting effects if we continuously desensitize our hearts and our minds to evil while systematically rejecting love as a motivating force.

But, how can this be? How can we watch and turn away. Surely, we are not so desensitized as to not realize that these are people being tortured, raped and murdered.

To most, these are isolated images; they are no more a part of their reality than a zombie slaying cable show. There is no "who" -- only "what".

And so we are shaped; our culture is shaped by a philosophy devoid of a person being a person regardless of where or why they end up in a circumstance, be it the womb or at the hands of terrorists in Iraq. We are shaped by a culture that forgets that Love is a person, and without Him, we cannot possibly hope to rectify any atrocity; neither abortion nor genocide will see a decline as long as we continue to ignore the "who" -- formed in image and likeness -- involved and allow ourselves to be shaped by rationalizations and fear of losing our material situations.

Who we love shapes us. Not what we love, but Who we love.

We have a choice, a clear one: allow our lives to be shaped in the absence or Love, or let Love shape us so as to see Love in everything and everyone around us.






Thursday, June 5, 2014

Modesty is relative -- a dialogue about swimwear

"Modesty is relative."

That's what my daughter said to me tonight trying to see if she could get a rise out of me. She likes to do that now and again.

Well, this would be the perfect time for such a discussion as we try to pack for a trip to visit a different culture, one that has turned from God-fearing to rather hedonistic.

"They all wear bikinis, and I am going to stick out wearing a tankini. Bikinis are culturally modest," she said with a little impish grin.

"Take the bait," I thought to myself, "this could be fun."

Without missing a beat, I said, "Why bother with the bikini at all? If you want to discuss cultural modesty and its relative nature, we could talk about how they think it's perfectly acceptable to go topless on 'family beaches' or completely bare in more restricted locations." 

Oh, the disgust! You would have thought I had made her eat worms.

And, that's the reaction I was hoping for because modesty isn't relative, it's a virtue! Modesty is relational; it hinges on your relationship with the Creator and from there reflects the dignity of the human person as you move into relationships with others.

"When you become an object of temptation for others through a lack of modesty, you show disrespect for your relationship with God as his daughter, and for the person whose soul you put at risk through your immodest behaviors." I told her. "Modesty isn't only about you -- yes, it starts with self respect which is developed by understanding how much God loves you -- but, it is also about how you love your neighbor."

This is reflective of the Two Great Commandments -- Love God and love your neighbor. These two Commandments should be predominant in our thoughts and deeds. Will it honor God; will it honor my neighbor? -- these should be the first questions we ask before we act.

We finally decided to agree that modesty is often the victim of cultural norms; to develop a true sense of modesty, those norms must be subject to the moral judgement of a properly informed conscience. I couldn't be more proud of my daughter for truly understanding this notion, I think even before we entered into this conversation. The Catechism of the Catholic Church says:
Moral conscience, present at the heart of the person, enjoins him at the appropriate moment to do good and to avoid evil. It also judges particular choices, approving those that are good and denouncing those that are evil. It bears witness to the authority of truth in reference to the supreme Good to which the human person is drawn, and it welcomes the commandments. When he listens to his conscience, the prudent man can hear God speaking. (CCC 1777)
When the norms of a culture veer from the path of truth and goodness, -- when they flow into an extreme -- in this case, the objectification of women, then our conscience should clearly tell us to avoid the behavior.

A bikini, in and of itself, is not evil, but the temptations that arise as a result of wearing this garment should be considered and, in the interest of wanting what is best for ourselves and our neighbor, avoided for the sake of souls.

And that is how the lesson on modest swimwear played out at our house tonight.

Comments are welcomed and appreciated -- especially on this subject.




Thursday, May 22, 2014

Tired of the Platitudes -- the perils of Scriptural sound bites

St. Jerome offered a valuable bit of advice to the faithful centuries ago -- he said, "Ignorance of Scripture is ignorance of Christ."

It's profound.

Why?

It's very simple -- Scripture is truly a living document (unlike the Constitution of the United States which many like to think enjoys this supernatural dignity, but that's a different blog post); it is the eternal Word of God, revelation made manifest in Christ Jesus, and guarded and enlivened by the Holy Spirit. That carries with it an enormous responsibility for its user; never should the use of Scripture be taken lightly or regarded with cavalier pride.

Is there anything more frustrating within Christianity than good people who throw Scriptural references around like they [the references] on their own have some magical power; or heaven forbid, that they might prove some intellectual ability on the part of the thrower!



No, when Scripture is used in sound bites it shows a total disregard for the Word of God. It becomes no more than lofty platitudes, and sends believers and non-believers running for the hills.

But, Scripture is much more than sound bites.  It is not a "what" that is referenced, but a "Who"; Jesus Himself is present in the Word. And, this is precisely what St. Jerome is plainly stating.

For instance, it is not sufficient to say/teach that Jesus is the Bread of Life, quote John 6:48 and call it a day -- for Catholic and Protestant, alike. One must understand the context, not just be able to recite the verse; and so many get it wrong or misinterpret the meaning of Scripture (any verse) based on what they have been taught or what they have decided is their own interpretation of the verse. In this, Catholics do have an advantage -- we are not alone to self-interpre. The teaching authority of the Church provides us with exhaustive information on what is the accepted Church interpretation of Scripture. No guess work involved.

Scripture reduced to platitudes is a sacrilege.

Trying to carry Christ to others in this manner is ineffective, at best. And worse still, it is detrimental to conversion of heart for those who might have a spark of faith left within them.

"[B]ut sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts. Always be ready to give an explanation to anyone who asks you for a reason for your hope." (1 Peter 3:15)

Standing alone, the verse above would seem to support every last thing I have written here. However, while it does suggest that we need to be able to support what we believe, or "be ready to give and explanation", this particular quote deals specifically with suffering for Christ. Without the proper context, one could easily misunderstand the nature of the teaching and not realize that suffering for the Word is essential to, even expected, when carrying Christ to others.

Sound bites and platitudes don't work. They are even potentially harmful and can potentially lead to a misplaced scorn and rejection of the power of the Word.

Don't just quote random Scripture verses to make a point. Rather, bring the fullness of the Scripture to others in both word and deed -- understand and live the meaning of the verse chosen, pray over it and let the Holy Spirit inspire, read it in its context to both Old Testament and New Testament, see what the Church teaches about it, etc.

Know what surrounds the quote!

This will bring credibility to what is said, and in this way will you bring honor to God and souls to Christ Jesus.




Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Meditation on Self-Knowledge

St. Catherine of Siena speaks these seemingly simple words to help us on our way to salvation:

You see this gentle loving Word born in a stable while Mary was on a journey, to show you pilgrims how you should be constantly born anew in the stable of self-knowledge, where by grace you will find me born in your soul. ( Dialogue 157)

It's not easy to practice self-knowledge.

I've had to face many facts in my life; sometimes those facts are not the most pleasant to contend with, but they are, however, true regardless of how painful they may be to address.

Self-knowledge doesn't only bring us to what is distressing -- that's important and necessary to realize. The good we find in ourselves we must continue to bring to perfection; the flaws, we must work to eradicate and turn into virtue.

Unless we clearly know who we are in relation to our Creator, respecting how we are made in His image and likeness, and continuing to improve ourselves to be perfect, as our heavenly Father is perfect (cf. Mt 5:48), we risk losing our own heavenly reward.

Simple Method:

Practice the presence of God -- place yourself there often

Make a daily resolution to work on an area of needed perfection

Examine your conscience, once or twice daily

Make a firm commitment via the Act of Contrition to work on self-knowledge and improvement

Frequent the Sacraments








Monday, April 7, 2014

Nashville Dominicans Apologize...for Truth?

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Why did the Nashville Dominicans apologize for Sister Laurel's comments about homosexuality? (read full article here)

"Sister Laurel holds a doctorate in theology from the Pontifical University of the Angelicum in Rome, one of the oldest schools in the world and the one that produced one of the world’s greatest theologians, St. Thomas Aquinas – also a Dominican like Sister Laurel.

Sister Laurel has reportedly given similar talks a few dozen times all over the country all without incident. It is reported that some of the data she used came from the highly respected Anscombe Bioethics Centre in Great Britain. Most of the the nun's talks are up at her webpage."

The article continued to say that much of what she taught came directly from the Catechism of the Catholic Church. And, still the reaction from the Catholic HS parents was "swift and overwhelming", even bringing the Nashville Dominicans to claim that Sister Laurel lacked the proper credentials to speak with authority on certain issues. Is this just another example of the hermeneutic of rupture, as Pope BXVI called the dissent/misinterpretation after Vatican II? What could the Nashville Dominicans have been thinking?

It is to misunderstand love to allow your brother to remain blind and in sin. While the biological causation may yet be in question, the fact that self-control is still a possibility should be fully considered. Continence is a virtue -- one that is infrequently taught with any relevance or credibility in the current culture.

In any case, I am truly surprised that there was an apology of any sort. Did the school not realize, or properly vet this speaker before she was engaged to offer her topic to the students? And, just exactly what are they teaching in their HS Moral Theology classes in the Diocese of Charlotte, NC?

Friday, February 14, 2014

Blog your way to holiness

Blogs are places to share opinions -- one's own little Op/Ed space to expound on things important to the writer; to elucidate regarding issues the writer thinks might be of some interest to others.

It opens a gateway for others to share their opinions. And on occasion, they aren't kind, or sometimes, even rational. But, if you offer a comments section, be prepared.



Blogging require is a thick skin, personal integrity and the virtue of humility.

St. Bridget offered, "It is a virtue and a prize to listen patiently to and put up with insults for the sake of God."


It doesn't matter what you choose to write about: cars, religion, children's activities, crafts, politics, etc., someone, anyone, can find fault with it. And that person who passes judgment on the work, who criticizes the efforts, knows nothing of the toil or trial, the joy and jubilation that might have inspired the piece.

Those who critique simply do what the writer has done -- express their opinion. This is blogging -- and it can be sanctifying!

It is a virtue to accept with kindness even the harshest comments. Consider the comments, consider the person who wrote them (even if they don't have the courage to post their names along with their comment). Most importantly, pray for them, and for yourself as a writer.

Ask yourself, "What was it in the piece that could have caused a negative opinion?"

If nothing, then thank God for the ability to suffer for His sake! Take it on the chin for Christ Jesus, and grow in the virtue of humility.

St. Augustine wrote: "Humility is the foundation of all the other virtues hence, in the soul in which this virtue does not exist there cannot be any other virtue except in mere appearance."

That means, it is impossible to love without first being humble. The writer must be able to accept that others will not always agree or have an agreeable attitude in the comment box, yet love them anyway for the sake of the Kingdom.

So, in my humble opinion, when writing a blog:

1. Set down securely the foundation of humility. Let it be God's blog -- let His will govern what is written and what is shared.

2. NEVER READ THE COMMENTS! (only kidding)

You can BLOG your way to holiness -- start with humility.





Sunday, December 15, 2013

Atheism, Islam & violence against women in Sweden

I almost never read the comments on news pieces -- I learned my lesson long ago. They can be the undoing of me. This particular piece of news, however, was intriguing from the start. The 16% increase in rapes of women (approximately 1000 total rapes in the first 7 months of 2013 -- 300 of them under the age of 15) in Sweden by Muslim immigrants is a stunning statistic for a neutral, peace loving country. (as reported by Swedish Public Radio)

I decided to see what people thought of this shocking revelation. The first comment was one calling for white European supremacy, and those that followed were increasingly angry. They strongly opposed the cowardly "stand down" tactics that Europe has taken over the years.

Violence begets more violence, I thought to myself.  I can only imagine that no one wants to see another rise in holocaust-like tactics as a response to this indignity and harm  being perpetrated on women in Sweden.

 One comment in particular amidst all the venom struck me -- the don't lump all Muslims in among this scum who just do this in the name of Islam. I could go along with that if all the Imams and heads of Islamic groups stood up and called for an end to this atrocity in Sweden & beyond.

It doesn't happen.

My heart-felt and sincere question to that is: Why?

Until such a time as it does, the deafening silence from the Muslim community will ring out as tacit approval of this vile behavior.

Sweden, on the other hand, is noted to be one of the most atheistic countries in Europe. Perhaps working to bring God back into the culture is the only answer to this problem. When one turns a blind eye to God, the void is often filled with evil. What is happening to women -- and sadly, very young women -- in Sweden is nothing less than evil.

Pope Francis is ringing the bell of the New Evangelization loud and clear for Europe and the world to hear. Today in his Angelus address, he emphasized:
“Those who have encountered Jesus along the road experience in their hearts a serenity and joy that nothing and no one can deprive them of.” (courtesy of CNA)
Acting in violence, denying and disparaging the two great Commandments: to love God and to love our neighbor, is the response of those who have not encountered Jesus along the road. They need to be introduced.

Sweden first needs to encounter Christ for themselves, protect its society and resist the violence that they have allowed to enter into their sovereign nation. It's time to start believing again, and rising up with the standard of Truth to confront not only the current assaults against women, but also the infiltration of an radical ideal that will undo personal freedom.

H/T -- Dr. Gerard Nadal for posting the link to this information on Facebook.